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Fifty Shades of Self Discovery

It’s been an interesting start to the year over here.

 

In fact, it’s been an ‘interesting’ few months.

 

Last year, as you might know, I built a pretty genius business model, if I do say so myself.

 

(Don’t worry, I put the trumpet down rapidly in a minute.)

 

Training practitioners in Energy Editing.  Writing a bestselling book.  Mentoring some of the practitioners.

 

Lovely stuff.

 

I moved my family into our dream home.  I even lost 40lb.

 

So it was a bit of surprise, after the high of the last training event, where I added nine new Energy Editing Professionals to my awesome team of practitioners; when I felt incredibly low.

 

Like super-fecking-miserable low.

 

I did the usual things, checked my gratitude levels, worked on my upper limits, and started mainlining Vitamin D.

 

Nothing.

 

Still felt terrible.

 

Obviously I didn’t tell anyone about it, because I’m a shiny-happy-positive person.

 

I make a lot of cash, I’m healthy, my family is happy, so I can’t have real problems.

 

I’m not entitled to have a hard time, and I don’t want to add my negativity to someone else’s vibe, so I’m not going to admit things aren’t going well in my world.

 

I retreated.

 

And not in a ‘lovely week of silence in Bali drinking green juice’ way.

 

In a hide-in-my-office-and-avoid-my-friends-way.

 

At home one Sunday, having pulled out of a weekend away with my girlfriends, and knowing I needed to get my shit together, I posted in an informal mastermind I have with four smart, sweet entrepreneurs:

 

“I’m struggling with muggling.  I don’t know what the hell my problem is.  I’ve lost my mojo and she doesn’t seem to want to come back.  And yes this is me asking for help.  Don’t tell anyone.”

 

The replies were immediate, and they all said brilliant, American things, like “I honour you for reaching out.”

 

Within 30 minutes I had calls scheduled with them all over the next few days.

 

The relief was palpable.

 

And in that relief, something ‘popped’.

 

A thought:

 

“I don’t want to do the practitioner training in March.”

 

My hilarious ego immediately replied: ‘Don’t be a fecking idiot.  You have a whole business built around this idea.  You wrote a book that tells people about what you do.  You’re making a lot of money.  Stop this nonsense immediately.”

 

And I just laughed.

 

No wonder I’d struggled to identify the problem.  I definitely was NOT looking at this as an option.  No way, José.   Not a chance, Lance.

 

If you’ve followed my work for a while, you know I like to crack on with things.

 

I make agile decisions, and I’m not afraid to pivot.

 

Within 24 hours, the next training dates had been taken off my website, and I’d told the hotel I wouldn’t need the room.

 

I had no idea what I was going to do, or if this was a permanent decision.

 

So I did some muscle testing, cleared some blocks, and got some directions:

 

There will be another book.

 

You’ll write it in the new year.

 

Something will become clear as you start writing, that will change everything.

 

Until then, you have to practise what you’re going to preach.

 

Walk what you’re going to talk about.

 

Do your own work.

 

Focus purely on your own alignment, and your own self-development.

 

Smash your own blocks, hunt down the next pieces of old baggage you’re dragging around, and get clear.

 

So that’s what I’ve been doing.

 

It’s been Fifty Shades of Self-Discovery at Lowbridge HQ.

 

Ups.  Downs.  Digging deeper than ever.

 

Getting to the core of some really old shite that I was still carrying around.

 

And then January came.

 

Time to write the book.

 

A deadline from my publisher.

 

And finally, the piece of information that changed everything.

 

I can’t tell you what it is yet, because I’m a great believer in incubating your ideas until they’re ready to hatch.

 

What I can tell you is that there’s a pivot coming.

 

A new direction for me, that I definitely couldn’t have predicted and I certainly was not equipped to deal with until now.

 

And the creation of something, that I think my peeps are going to love.

 

I believe it’s the one thing that everyone who’s ever been in one of my programmes actually wants, and I can’t wait to share it.

 

I realise I’m being a MASSIVE tease, I just wanted to update you on what’s been going on inside my skull, and let you know something is coming –very soon!

 

Now that I’m out of hibernation, I’m finding that I’m not the only one doing some serious self-evaluation.

 

So if you’re going through it too, here’s what helped me:

 

1. Confess to someone that you’re struggling – and chose that ‘someone’ wisely.

 

2. Too much TV does not count as self-care, unless it’s making you laugh.

 

3. Even if you’re a massive introvert, make sure you’ve not slipped into hermit-mode.

 

4. Accept that right now you don’t know what’s going to happen.

 

5. Commit to putting down your old baggage, and getting help if you need it.

 

I’m sending enormous ((((HUGS)))), and a promise it’s all working out, even when it doesn’t feel that way.

 

ALL the love,

 

Michelle xxx

 

What to do when you don’t know what to do

I had a clear intention at the start of the year.

 

If anyone asked me what I was up to, I said “I’m training practitioners in Energy Editing in March, and then after that I’m going to write my book before the next training in June.”

 

And that’s exactly what I did.

 

And it was all hunky-dory.  The first training was magic, and the book got written.  The June training was filling up rapidly.

 

And yet.

 

I felt restless. Worried about everything, satisfied by nothing.

 

Logically, feeling crappy didn’t make sense, which made me feel worse.

 

Muscle testing revealed: “Self-esteem is oscillating between my old level of value and my new level of value.” (Apparently my subconscious uses words like ‘oscillating’, it’s very Colin Firth.)

 

I did some energy work to sort it out, including some fears around being depended on by a large number of people, some stress around how much time I have available, and some cracking limiting beliefs, including: “If I were wealthy I’d be unable to handle the expectations of others.”

 

With that sorted, I was amazed a few days later that I still felt like a bag of pants.

 

Now what?

 

I was beginning to annoy myself.

 

Did you know you can tell a lot about your energy from the way that traffic behaves around you when you drive your car?

 

Bit weird if you’re new to this sort of thing, but true.

 

I won’t go into the physics of why this happens, that’s another blog post, but essentially, the energy around you is a reflection of your energy.

 

Usually when I’m driving, it’s happy days. Fairly clear roads, tunes on, a healthy mutual respect for my fellow road-users.

 

If it’s any other way, I know that something’s going on.

 

So when I drove a 20-mile round-trip, in our quiet countryside, and kept seeing police cars everywhere, it did briefly cross my mind that it was a warning of some sort. When people started stepping into the road in front of me without even looking to check the traffic, I got the memo.

 

THE ROAD AHEAD IS BLOCKED.

 

Very clever Universe, if perhaps a little bit fecking dangerous.

 

I got home, straight to my desk, and started muscle testing.

 

‘What road and what is blocking it?’

 

Answer: The road to my big goal – buying a big house – is blocked because I don’t think it’s possible.  I don’t believe it’s possible because I don’t know what I’m going to do next in the business, at a level that will enable me to buy that dream house.

 

Firstly, as a lover of the Law of Attraction, I should know WAY better than to be thinking about ‘how’ something will happen. It’s not up to me,

 

However, in my own business and life, I’m a meddler. I fiddle about. I tinker and investigate, and constantly seek improvement.  Often that’s a good thing.

And then the penny dropped.

 

I don’t like not knowing what I’m going to do next.

 

It makes me uncomfortable, lethargic, and quite frankly, a bit miserable.

 

Oh.

 

So the last few weeks have been an interesting little excursion for me and my funny little human self, to a place called “NOT KNOWING.”

 

At this point in writing this blog post, I stopped to go to a local pub for ginger beer and ice cream (can anyone say Enid Blyton) with the hubster, kids, and my parents, to celebrate my book, Wealthology, becoming a UK and US bestseller.

 

As we were leaving to come home, my Dad asked: “So what’s next?”

 

I replied: “I don’t know.”

 

His reaction said it all.

 

“You don’t know! You don’t know. You don’t know? Ooh. That’s different.”

 

“I know it’s weird isn’t it Dad? I’m actually just writing a blog about it, called ‘what to do when you don’t know what to do next.”

 

“Are you really? Well how about that. Not knowing.”

 

My mum nudged him: “Give her a chance, she’s just published a book. So much pressure!”

 

Dad raised his eyebrows: “I’m not pressuring her. She just always has a plan. We tend to always have a plan.”

 

“He’s right mum. He’s not pressuring me. He’s just a perfect demonstration of why I’m programmed the way I am. My brain is always on at me to have a plan, and move to the next thing, and this time I don’t know what I want to do.”

 

Dad sat quietly for a few minutes whilst we rounded up the kids.

 

Then, with typical, understated wisdom, he said: “It’s about not knowing. The next thing – it’s to not know, isn’t it?”

 

“Yes! That’s what I’ve been doing, figuring out how to ‘not know’ without it doing my head in completely.”

 

“Take more time off, go with the flow, see what happens?”

 

“Yes, and finding the balance between having intentions, and taking action, and knowing when to let go. Like people have asked me, ‘how are you celebrating the book launch?’ and I’m thinking, ‘Celebrating on launch day? I’m not celebrating, I’m thinking about finishing the day knowing that I did my absolute best to make the launch a success.’ Even today, coming here is a bit like something I just needed to tick off a list: Celebration – Check. I feel like I need to plan a full celebration when things settle down a bit.”

We both laughed. Enid Blyton and irony. Such a riot, old chum!
Here I am, back at my desk, and I want to share with you what I’ve learnt that makes not knowing much easier, if you’re also a Natural Born Planner.

 

Ready?

  1. Accept that you don’t know what to do.

 

Resistance to not knowing creates as much stress as not knowing. Find some peace around the idea that you don’t currently have a plan. This might be obvious to you, but for me personally, if I don’t have a plan, my instinct is to say ‘Right lads, we’ll solve this lack-of-plan-problem by coming up with a plan right now.’

 

That’s how I’d spent the previous few days before I realised I’d got a (hopefully return) ticket to Notknowingsville. Brainstorming, pushing, forcing, researching, determined to decide what I wanted to do next. But nothing felt right, nothing aligned, nothing clicked.

 

In true Serenity prayer style, it was time to ‘accept the things that I cannot change’. Confession: I’d always thought that part was a lovely bit of wisdom, very useful for other people, and that I was totally brilliant at it. HA! I’d just never really hit upon something I couldn’t solve with a bit of planning and execution, in my business before.

 

It took me a fair amount of energy work to release my addiction to knowing what’s next, and I’m still peeling back layers on my love of hustle and grind. (Is that a dance move?)

 

Here are some fears and limiting beliefs to look out for, that might be messing with you, like they were with me:

 

Fear of failing

Fear of not trying hard enough

Fear of being accused of not working hard. (Because apparently it’s 1849.)

Fear of not doing my best for my family

 

If I don’t have a plan it will all go to shit. (Yep, that’s a limiting belief.)

When I’m not pushing I’m being lazy

If I don’t hustle I won’t succeed

I should know what I want to do

 

With the resistance and stress beginning to reduce, the inner battle cooled down and I stopped annoying myself. I still had no idea what to do next, so I tried all sorts of things. What, you didn’t think I was just going to just find peace and stop there did you?

  1. Separate your Big-Big Goal from your business

If you’ve established that you don’t know what to do next in your business, then what would you like to achieve in your personal life? How would you like to feel?

 

There is so much advice about goal setting, and personally I think it’s down to your own preference. I think it’s great to have a Big-Big goal, and I also think it can be very stressful to link it to a particular component of your business, and as entrepreneurs it’s natural to do that.

 

It looks like this:

 

I want to own a big house. I want to buy that big house now. It’s going to cost $1,000,000. I must make that money in my business.

 

And off I go, down the rabbit hole, pushing for ideas and stressing out because I can’t see where that money will be created, and what if my family think I hate them because I haven’t worked hard enough to buy a big family home.

 

Pressure, much?

 

How about this instead:

 

I want to own a big house. I have no idea how that’s going to happen. I’m excited to see how it does happen. In the business right now, I’m doing everything that feels aligned, to the best of my ability, and I’m excited to see what happens.

 

Feel the difference?

 

There’s so much relief in separating your Big-Big Goal from your immediate actions. Check in with yourself and see what extra pressure you’ve added to your business, and how it’s really affecting your mindset.

 

  1. Sit quietly.

If you don’t call it meditation, it’s less likely to trigger your inner Busy Monkey. Essentially, just sit the hell down, use ear plugs or white noise if you’re distracted by noise, close your eyes, and just stop.

 

Stop talking, stop moving, stop looking at stuff.

 

If you haven’t done this before you might feel like you want to axe someone’s head off for the first few minutes. Push through!

 

No time to sit quietly?

 

Bollocks, we’ve all got 15 minutes a couple of times a week.

 

It’s not a time issue, it’s a resistance-to-sitting-alone-with-no-distractions issue.

 

Why are we sitting quietly, you ask?

 

Well guess what, when we cease all activity, the Mind Monkeys go MENTAL, and then, just when you accept that they won’t shut up, they tire themselves out. The second that happens, you’re no longer being driven by that funny little human brain. The real ‘you’ gets to take over.

 

Yeah, you’re not a brain. You’re a spark of fricking light that broke off the sun and went through a billion evolutions, before deciding to give this life a go, and zipping yourself into the human suit you’re currently wearing.

 

And when you get really quiet, and take all the stimuli and distractions away from the human suit, the spark of light takes over.

 

Then guess what?

 

You’ve got a billion-year-old ray of wisdom in charge.

 

It’s basically like having Morgan Freeman making all the decisions.

 

Here’s an example of the difference between me and my Inner Morgan Freeman making decisions.

 

Me: “What to do, what to do? Must have a plan. I know, I’d like to make $1,000,000 and the way I think I can do that is to…”

 

(Confession: I muscle tested the energy of that particular idea, and it was ‘arrogant’. HA! I’ve never been insulted by the Universe before. It was followed up with this explanation: ‘It’s lacking my essence and what my heart wants to do next.’ Which was true.)

 

Morgan: “It’s lovely and peaceful in here. I feel lovely and calm. It’s great that $1,000,000 is on its way. What would be the very best thing that I could do? The most inspired, creative fun thing. I know, I’ll…”

 

Morgan’s advice is always a winner. Having been around a billion years, he knows stuff.

 

I jokingly call my Dad the Guru. Did you notice I mentioned that he sat quietly before speaking? He does that a lot. He’s one very chilled out, wise, funny dude, who gives brilliant advice, and can find a solution for anything. Him and Morgan? Best mates.

  1. Baby Steps

 

These are the small, easy actions that are right in front of you. Now, this doesn’t mean those evasive actions like cleaning the back of cupboards, or any of those things that we do, when we don’t want to do the things we need to do.

 

I think there are two main types of baby steps, and I’ll tell you the difference, using me as an example – knowing I want a house, whilst not knowing what I want to do next in my business…

 

  1. Steps towards the Big-Big goal – looking at houses online, viewing property, talking to the hubster about what we’d like.
  2. Steps that relate to current commitments – marketing the book, preparing for the training in June, rebranding my website.

And here’s the secret sauce.

 

The steps that relate to the Big-Big goal are done with joy and excitement, not taken too seriously, and are a gift to yourself.

 

The steps that relate to current commitments are done with joy and excitement, taken very seriously, and are about using your gifts to serve others to the very best of your ability.
If you apply these principles to your baby steps, you’ll be amazed at what unfolds, because they create two different types of energy that attracts success and opportunity.

You can walk a surprisingly enormous distance using teeny-tiny, wobbly baby steps, and that’s not all – baby steps always lead to your end goal, even when you can’t see the next ‘via’ point.

 

  1. Take a gestation vacation

 

Just stop needing to know what you don’t know, and give yourself a week or two of not thinking about it. Give yourself official permission to stop.

 

During this time, write down every idea you have. Every inspiration, business idea, day dream, aspiration, blog post idea, person to contact, place you’d like to go, thing you’d like to learn. Just write them down.

 

You’ll start to see how many more options are available to you than you realise, and all sorts of ideas will download.

 

This is one holiday that will be much more beneficial if you spend a lot of it hanging out with Morgan Freeman.  This blog post was one of his ideas, when we were sitting by the fire one evening a couple of weeks ago.

 

  1. Switch off social media

Seeing what everyone else is doing when you’re not doing anything can be really stressful.

Think of yourself as pregnant with an idea. You have to start nurturing your baby way before it’s born. Peace, calm, wholesome connection, good food, lots of water and lots more kindness. Not hours spent scrolling your phone screen like a rat hitting a button and hoping for a shot of social media dopamine.

 

Extending your energy into the vacuum of ‘what everyone else says they’re doing’ is not good for the idea-baby.

There are too many tiny jolts to the system in between the hits of dopamine. Take Facebook off your phone, limit the time you spend at your laptop, and believe me when I say that you really won’t miss out on anything that important. If the world breaks, someone will call you.

 

  1. Have fun connecting with other people

 

Arrange to see your funniest friends as soon as possible. Hang out with a toddler who just started forming sentences. Anything that makes you laugh. Spend time with people you love, put the focus on them, and enjoy yourself.

 

This is perhaps the easiest one to do… and also the hardest. I am notorious for spending too many hours at my desk, withdrawing when I’m busy, and not knowing when to stop working. I also know without doubt that connection and laughter have a very particular energy, which attracts only good things, and sparks the most unexpected, marvelous surprises.

 

Earlier this year, I spent a remarkable amount of time (for introvert me) connecting with people on Skype when I usually would have been working. I remember thinking at the time, ‘This is weird, I really like it, even though it doesn’t really seem to have a purpose, I guess it’s ok that I’m not really working’. And guess what? I can’t tell you how many brilliant conversations, ideas, friendships, and support have resulted from those calls.

  1. If too much choice is a problem

 

Feel like you don’t know what to do because there are so many options? If you’ve tried getting quiet, and you’ve checked in for resistance and cleared any fears that might be blocking you, and you still don’t want to move forward, then it might be that none of the choices you can currently see are the right ones.

 

Write down your options. Let’s call them A,B,C. Now do you love any of those options? If so, then fear is the only thing stopping you, and you really do know what to do. If not, then here’s the good news. There’s an option D. You just don’t know what it is yet.

 

And here’s what we know about option D:  It can be whatever you want it to be.

 

What’s your ideal option? What does it look like, feel like, sound like? Who is there with you? When you think about your ideal option, it’s likely that the mind monkeys start kicking in with reasons why it isn’t possible. That’s not the same as not knowing. Open your mind to there being a perfect solution that feels completely aligned, that you’re just not aware of yet.

 

And one final secret for you – Option D shows up a lot faster when you practice the first six steps I shared.

 

There you have it.

 

My guide to what to do when you don’t know what to do next.

 

Accept that you don’t know.

Separate your Big-Big goal from your business.

Sit quietly.

Take baby steps.

Take a Gestation Vacation.

Switch off social media.

Have fun.

Remember there’s always an option D.

These are the things I’ve been up to for the last few weeks, and although I still don’t know what I want to do next, I’m totally ok with that.  I’m showing up, and I trust that the Big U has a plan, even if I don’t.
What are you going to do right now?
Let me know!
Love from

 

Michelle
The Energy Editor
PS – If you like my writing, you’ll probably like my book – it’s free right now on Amazon – find it here.

 

 

 

My $72,000 Secret

Well this is embarrassing.

But I have a confession.

And an invitation to a celebration.

Remember when I launched Prosperity Prescription 2.0 in the summer?

I talked about it a LOT.

For two weeks, non-stop.

And then since then, unless you’re in the programme, you probably haven’t heard anything about it.

There’s a reason for that.

The launch was so successful that I was embarrassed to talk about it.

Yep, the queen of smashing upper limits, smacked head first into her own and has been subconsciously crippled by it ever since.

It was all going pretty well.

I was working hard, putting in long hours and pushing the launch boulder up the mountain.

The sales were coming in fairly steadily but slow enough to keep me pushing.

I was determined (my ego was determined) to ‘beat’ last year’s total of $45,267.

I was coming up against all sorts of inner ‘stuff’ during the launch and clearing it and moving forward, and clearing it again.

I did a lot of ‘growing’. It was uncomfortable but that in itself was kind of comforting.

Because I was trying hard.

A mantra from my childhood – “Well done, you tried really hard then, whatever happens, no-one can say you didn’t try hard.”

So if I was trying hard, then the outcome was fine whatever happened –

Try hard and fail, well at least I tried hard.

Try hard and succeed, well then I deserved it.

The night before the early-bird price ended, I was getting near the $40k mark.

That felt good. I was going to be close enough to last year not to feel like a failure.

My husband wasn’t going to be looking for another teaching job.

So I relaxed.

I celebrated with my family.

And the sales started flooding in.

Over the next 48 hours the total rose to $72,000.

On one hand I was ecstatic, thrilled, joyful.

And on the other hand I didn’t know how to handle it.

I hadn’t worked hard for that final $32,000.

Therefore did I really deserve it?

I had smacked into the upper limit of what I felt I was worth and deserving of.

And so I kept quiet about it.

I mentioned it once, hidden in a blog post where I also outed myself for not saving any money and spending ‘too much’ – to play down my achievements and make it ‘ok’ that I’d made this money.

I didn’t realise how much the shame of it was affecting me until yesterday.

I was wondering why people weren’t still joining Prosperity Prescription, so I started muscle-testing for some answers.

I found two things.

One – that people didn’t know it was still open because I have hardly mentioned it since.

Two – that I hadn’t been truly grateful for the financial gifts I’d received. Essentially I’d told the Universe ‘no more’ by failing to make a public declaration of thanks.

Now I’m not saying that everyone has to make a public declaration of thanks for the great things they receive (although the world be awesome if they did.)

But in my role as an expert in changing your energy so that you can make more money whilst really enjoying yourself, it’s really important for me to talk about these things.

I have a responsibility to my ‘online family’ and my clients, and anyone who is inspired to change their relationship to money, to be totally open about these things – I have to practise what I preach.

But for the last few months my subconscious has been playing a subliminal recording that I just didn’t pick up on. It was whispering…

You didn’t earn this. You don’t deserve it. You better not fricking tell anyone or people will HATE you, and your friends will desert you. You didn’t work hard enough for it and so you better not enjoy it. You should be ashamed of yourself.

Up on the surface things are ok, I’ve had tricky days and great days and everything in between.

But always a sense that something wasn’t quite right.

And truly, on some level, knowing that it was tied to that $72,000 and trying really hard to ignore it, because what the hell sort of idiot is going to admit making that sort of money for not a huge amount of effort?

Well, this idiot is.

Because the truth is this – feeling shitty about not deserving it meant that I didn’t speak sincerely about it. And being insincere about things always makes me feel shitty. And feeling shitty meant that I couldn’t be sincere.

See the cycle? A washing machine stuck on a spin cycle of shame.

After doing some work around this over the last couple of days, I now know this:

I’m more attached to my own values of sincerity, honesty, and integrity than I am to anything else.

So here it is.

A public declaration that I made a lot of money.

A public apology to the people that joined the programme that we didn’t celebrate the launch. An apology to those that love me, that I didn’t feel deserving enough of the money – or your love – to celebrate with you.

And a public invitation to you to do two things –

One, is to celebrate with me, because I would really appreciate it.

Two, is to think about this –

If you’re feeling a bit ‘off’ or out of alignment, ask yourself –

What is the last thing that you received that was fantastic?

On some level, did you feel you didn’t deserve it?

And if so, why?

And when you’ve taken a few minutes to figure that out, send me a message or a comment or an email, and tell me – so that I can celebrate with you, and tell you that you, 100%, deserved it.

I truly love to celebrate other people’s success and joy and gifts, and I’d be honoured to celebrate with you, and in doing so we invite the Universe to send us more of the same – and better.

To a 2016 of celebration, rising higher and acting in alignment…

Sending so much love

Michelle
The Energy Editor

My First Six-Figure Year

Since my first big launch last summer I’ve made a six-figure income.

 

Now, let’s be clear:

 

That’s gross revenue, in dollars.

 

But regardless of the technicalities, I made a shite-load of money.

 

Way more than ever before.

 

So isn’t it interesting –

 

And kind of embarrassing –

 

And perhaps a little bit terrifying –

 

That I also have:

 

Less savings than this time last year.

 

A credit card debt for the first time in ten years.

 

No pension.

 

No investments.

 

And no clue as to the net, post-tax revenue of the business in British pounds.

 

I spent the last year enjoying my money-magnetising abilities.

 

I’ve had $5000 VIP clients.

 

I had a second, $25,000 launch in April.

 

I’ve been paid tidy sums for an hour’s work on someone else’s programme.

 

And of course, I’ve helped a lot of people make more money.

 

When you’ve never been well paid before, that’s your focus.

 

When I erased the blocks that were holding me back from accumulating wealth…

 

There was no holding me back.

 

Money flowed in.

 

I can make money flow in, no doubt about it.

 

And unlike in previous years, money coming in hasn’t been followed by unexpected bills.

 

Things haven’t broken down.

 

Things haven’t gone wrong.

 

Things have been fantastic.

 

I said earlier in the year:

 

“True wealth is all the money you want – and more – with the freedom to choose how to spend it.”

 

And spend it I have.

 

I like travel.

 

To me it spells freedom, adventure and experience.

 

So we had a last-minute family holiday to Lanzarote.

 

An epic three week trip-of-a-lifetime to California.

 

I’ve been to Key West in Florida and Tulum in Mexico.

 

Our big goal for this year was to move house.

 

Working from home is great.

 

When your office is next to the kitchen and the sitting room and you have three kids?

 

It can be a bit hard to get everything done that you want to do.

 

So in July we moved to a massive house with a big, quiet office space.

 

There’s no mistake, this year I’ve done what I set out to do.

 

Make money.

 

Love my work.

 

Enjoy freedom and fun with my family.

 

So what’s the problem?

 

I don’t think this is the full picture of wealth.

 

I thought it was.

 

And now I can see that there are edges to this picture that aren’t fully in view yet.

 

Edges like pensions, investments and returns.

 

Sounds fecking boring doesn’t it?

 

KEEP READING!

 

Because what interests me isn’t so much what pension to get.

 

(And whether a pension is even a good idea in the current financial climate blah blah.)

 

No.

 

The interesting question is this –

 

What is it that really makes you wealthy?

 

Because I truly believe that fun, freedom and giving are signs of a wealthy life.

 

But if all of my money just flows out again (even in directions I choose) am I really wealthy?

 

Maybe true wealth means having an income that keeps flowing even if you don’t switch on your laptop?

 

An income that flows until you die is probably going to involve investing in some way.

 

Switching off when it comes to the conversation about investing?

 

That’s a money block.

 

One that I think is prevalent in women.

 

I know I had it.

 

I’ve spent the last week working on it.

 

Because I just had another launch.

 

$72,000 in two weeks.

 

And at the same time as celebrating with my family.

 

I couldn’t fight off the feeling that I need to do things differently.

 

That if I get to this time last year and have no assets to show for my year in business?

 

I’m going to kick myself.

 

I realised that I was intimidated by accountancy.

 

Daunted by investing.

 

Confused by everything I didn’t know.

 

And it literally made me shut down, switch off, numb out.

 

I realised that I’d erased my money blocks around making money and being able to enjoy it.

 

Hence having a fricking brilliant year and lots of fun.

 

But what to actually DO with it once I’d got it?

 

(Other than enjoy it.)

 

Blocked.

 

Big style.

 

So I started asking myself a lot of questions.

 

And for me, this is always where the fun starts.

 

How do we balance feeling good in the present with planning for the future?

 

How much of my $72,000 launch success was due to spending a lot of cash in America this summer?

 

I’ll explain.

 

On that trip, I was determined we wouldn’t worry about money.

 

That we’d do whatever we wanted, experience whatever we wanted.

 

That we’d give away hundreds of dollars in tips and gifts to homeless people.

 

And we did.

 

It meant I spent a lot.

 

But how much was it energetically responsible for attracting back to me?

 

In terms of the Laws of the Universe, how much do I need to live in the present?

 

How much should I prepare for the future?

 

And when it comes to these money blocks around investing.

 

What are women afraid of?

 

And do you know the magic of asking these questions?

 

I can go straight to Infinite Intelligence for the answers.

 

So, here’s the thing.

 

The same energy I tune into to find out what your money blocks are –

 

I can tune in to the collective energy of any individual or group and ask anything.

 

I can test what were the factors that contributed to my success.

 

And I can find out what percentage each factor was responsible for.

 

I can test for women as a group.

 

Or female online entrepreneurs as a group.

 

So things are about to get really interesting around here.

 

And I want to know –

 

If you could ask Infinite Intelligence, the soul that connects us, anything about money and wealth –

 

What would you ask?

 

NOT a personal question like “What is my money block around x, y, z?”

 

But –

 

What are the things that block women from investing in property?

 

(I already found that out for someone months ago and I’ll post about it when I’ve dug the notes up!)

 

Or maybe –

 

What attracts more money to me, spending or saving?

 

I’m talking the fundamental things that affect all of us in relation to wealth.

 

What would you ask?

 

TELL ME!

 

Email me right now with your questions about money and wealth.

 

My mission for this year is to find answers.

 

To keep broadening my view of the Wealth Picture.

 

And to keep sharing what I learn.

 

The world is changing.

 

Like me, are you self-employed or running your own small business?

 

Or do you want to be?

 

Or are you employed?

 

We’re all in the same position (with few exceptions).

 

If we take six months off (and I mean really off) we don’t get paid.

 

In the online space there’s a lot of focus on ‘working from anywhere’.

 

But that still means working.

 

We might not have to show up to an office, but we’re also not totally free.

 

And I think that’s where the truth about Wealth and Freedom lies –

 

It’s not just about freedom to travel or work in our pyjamas all day.

 

It’s the freedom to stop working and see the money keep flowing in.

 

I don’t have all the answers.

 

But I do know this –

 

I’m determined to find them.

 

I’ll keep you posted.

 

Love always

 

Michelle

PS – I’m deadly serious – email me now and ask me your burning questions about wealth, money and money blocks!

Kinesiology… Kinesio-What Now?! My Journey Into The World of Energy

I remember when I was first told about kinesiology.

 

My first daughter was eight months old and she was a really fussy eater.

 

And as a new mum, I was petrified she would starve (or wake up in the night) so I only fed her what she liked.

 

Which was mostly yoghurt.

 

A friend told me to go and see a kinesiologist.

 

I nodded, smiled and completely ignored her.

 

By the time Ellie was 14 months old she would eat yoghurt and toast with marmite.

 

That was it.

 

No vegetables. Nothing green.

 

When my friend suggested kinesiology again, I thought I might as well try it.

 

The practitioner – a Health Kinesiologist – did some muscle testing (more about that later) and said:

 

“She has four allergies.  Bakers yeast, brewers yeast, sugar and lactose.”

 

“Oh,” I said –

 

“That’s weird, because she only eats toast, marmite (made from brewer’s yeast), and sugary yoghurts.”

 

To which the practitioner replied calmly, as if she wasn’t about to change my life forever:

 

“Yes, the body usually craves that which it is allergic to…. Would you like me to correct these allergies now?”

 

“Um, say what now?”

 

“Shall I rebalance the energy so that these substances are no longer a problem?”

 

If my eyebrows could have risen any higher they’d have left my face.

 

“I thought you’d just tell me what the allergies are and we’d have to avoid them.”

 

In her mind she was clearly thinking “Bollocks to that.”

 

But very professionally, she said:

 

“Oh no, we’ll get this sorted right away.”

 

And she did.

 

We left that day and for six weeks Ellie wouldn’t eat toast.

 

Or marmite.

 

Or yoghurt.

 

She began eating all sorts of other things.

 

Most amazing of all, her favourite food became fresh, raw vegetables.

 

Even now, at 11 years old, she calls a salad ‘my normal dinner’.

 

Needless to say, I was overjoyed.

 

But that wasn’t the only magic that happened in that session.

 

Along with the allergy corrections, the practitioner also found and corrected some energy blocks.

 

These were emotional things like fears and things that troubled her little mind.

 

She even stopped her night-terrors.

 

Health Kinesiology gives you phrases to think, which create stress in the body.

 

By releasing the stress whilst it’s being triggered, you completely release the block.

 

Which means you’re no longer triggered.

 

And you don’t get stressed or overwhelmed by the things that were previously stressing or overwhelming you.

 

The phrases I was given to think on Ellie’s behalf were so perfect in describing her little personality.

 

I was fascinated.

 

I booked myself in for the following week.

 

The work was so accurate, it so pointedly zoomed in on my root fears and resolved the things that I struggled with, that it blew my mind.

 

For example, she honed in on my extreme problems with trust, a hangover from a previous relationship.

 

Since then, I’ve found and married the hubster.

 

And I know for sure that I wouldn’t have lasted the long-distance-beginning of our relationship if I hadn’t been able to trust him at all.

 

I kept going back for more sessions.

 

The changes I – and my family – experienced were so profound

 

I finally decided: “I have to learn how to do this.”

 

In 2009 I started studying in earnest.

 

The training for Health Kinesiology is intense.

 

Hundreds of hours studying, reading and practicing with volunteers.

 

It has to be.

 

It’s a huge responsibility to work with someone’s energy.

 

I am making changes in your energy system.

 

Your energy system is the blueprint for your body, mind and emotions.

 

It’s like your motherboard.

 

Would you take your laptop to McDonalds to be repaired?

 

Exactly.

 

I take this work very seriously.

 

After completing the five levels required to gain certification, in February of 2011 I began working professionally.

 

I saw a large range of clients with a variety of issues in my practice, from sleep problems to emotional traumas.

 

Together we achieved fantastic results.

 

One of the Health Kinesiology laws is:

 

The Impossible Just Takes A Little Bit Longer. 

 

I loved the feeling of a client leaving the treatment room after 60 minutes and their entire life had been turned around for the better.

 

While I was establishing my practice, I aced my extra studies in nutrition, anatomy and physiology, counseling skills, practice-management and Touch for Health.

 

(I know, Braggy Braggerson, but I take this shiz seriously!)

 

With these extra certification, at the end of 2013 I reached Kinesiology Federation Registered Practitioner (KFRP) status with the Kinesiology Federation, UK.

 

This is the highest level awarded unless you become a teacher.

 

I am very aware that I have a great deal of responsibility to work accurately, ethically and reliably.

 

My clients count on me to facilitate shifts in their energy that completely change the way they experience life.

 

When you work with me, you are – literally – in safe hands.

 

I have practiced and practiced my skills on hundreds of clients over the years, and now it’s like the energy I’m working on becomes an extension of me.

 

I use a combination of intuition and a specialized muscle-testing system which gives your body an infinite number of options to communicate to me what it needs, but allows me to work very fast.

 

I’ve developed many techniques and methods of my own.

 

Coupled with my extra-curricular interest in the quantum field and the laws of the Universe, the energy work I do has become completely unique.

 

This means that I can achieve accelerated results, which you might not find in traditional kinesiology.

 

And enables me to work with big groups.

 

All over the world.

 

With energy corrections that activate when the members start thinking.

 

As one of my clients put it:

 

“You’re really playing at the very edge of what we know about the quantum field.”

 

I’d never really thought about it before.

 

But hearing it made this lady-geek very happy.

 

It’s true that no-one else does what I do, in the way that I do it.

 

So what is it that I do?

 

There are two key elements:

 

  1. Kinesiology – finding out what the blocks are and how to erase them (which is what I’m going to explain now)

 

  1. Energy Correcting – erasing the blocks (which I’ll talk about next time)

 

Let’s start with the basics…

 

Kinesiology means ‘the science of movement in the body.’

 

What I’m doing is monitoring a stress response – or movement – in one very sensitive muscle.

 

By monitoring how that muscle responds to various stressors and triggers I can quickly determine what your blocks are and how to release them.

 

The kinesiology part is all about determining the What and the How:

 

In my treatment room, in-person:

 

– I rest your elbow on the table with your arm at a 45 degree angle.

 

– I check that the arm is in the ‘test position’.

 

– If the body is in stress, when I apply light pressure to your wrist then your arm will physically move downward.

 

– If the body is not in stress then your arm will stay strong – the muscle is locked.

 

– After I run a system of checks and balances to ensure that your body is giving me accurate answers I begin to muscle test.

 

– This means that I ask a series of verbal questions.

 

– I direct these questions to your body.

 

– If your body wants to tell me ‘No’ then the muscle switches off and the arm goes down.

 

– If your body wants to tell me ‘Yes’ then the muscle stays locked on and it will not go down.

 

– Then I proceed by asking your body Yes or No questions. I have a very refined, efficient system by which I very quickly find out what your body wants to tell me.

 

Your body knows exactly where the problems are.

 

Your body remembers the tiny incidents and experiences from your life that put its energy out of alignment.

 

Your body recalls in detail the things you have forgotten that are the root causes of your current struggles.

 

Your body also knows exactly what it needs to solve the problem.

 

And your body will tell me how to erase the blocks by using a muscle to respond to my questions.

 

So how does this work when you’re not in the room with me?

 

Maybe you’re even on the other side of the world?

 

Here’s the magic…

 

In the quantum field (the space between us) everything is connected.

 

So, first, I connect to you using an energetic intention.

 

Imagine it like this – in the space between us there are a million dots.

 

When I create an energetic intention, I light up a pathway of dots.

 

If my intention is to connect with you, then I light up a pathway of dots between you and I.

 

When we are connected in this way, I substitute my muscle for your muscle.

 

This is called surrogate testing.

 

I generally use the quadriceps in my thigh because it gives me the most accurate response.

 

(And leg ache, after I’ve been working too long.)

 

When I’ve connected to you, I direct my questions to your body via this connection, and I apply pressure to my own muscle as if it were yours.

 

My muscle responds on your behalf and I work exactly as I would in a one-on-one in-person session – asking questions and monitoring the response.

 

This is how I can accurately pinpoint your blocks and triggers.

 

When I work with a group, I connect to the collective energy of the members and apply the same principle.

 

It’s an enormous amount of fun, solving the puzzles of people’s problems.

 

Geek Confession: In my head, I’m the energetic Sherlock Holmes.

 

Once I’ve identified what the blocks are and how to release them, we move onto the second part – Correcting the Energy – and I’ll share more about that next time.

 

I hope that this has been useful.

 

I know the word kinesiology is a bit of a ‘kinesi-what’.

 

And I know that I was really cynical about anything alternative until I saw the results for myself.

 

I’m just a regular person, going about my life.

 

And I have an intense interest in what goes on behind the scenes of our lives, in the energetic realm.

 

It doesn’t mean I talk to fairies, wear tie-dye or eat crystals.

 

But it does mean I have a real advantage in life because I can change the very stuff that we are made of.

 

I can edit it, erase it, shift it.

 

I can find the things that trigger you and make them not trigger you any more.

 

I can strengthen you to your weaknesses and heighten your abilities.

 

I can take an issue that cripples you and erase it so well that you can’t even recall it.

 

So funnily enough, I absolutely love my work.

 

But rest assured, I take it very seriously.

 

I might put kisses at the end of my messages, but that’s just because I’m an absolutely softy.

 

I like running my own business because if I want to confuse the hell out of my accountant with an auto-responder that greets you with “Hello lovely” – well, that’s up to me.

 

In my energy work, I know exactly what I’m doing.

 

If you’re in my family, you get taken care of.

 

And that’s what Prosperity Prescription is all about.

 

My online family.

 

We’re about to embark on another year-long journey.

 

The first year has been an enormous success.

 

230 members.

 

Phenomenal success stories.

 

Transformations, celebrations and a lot of happy tears.

 

Prosperity Prescription 2.0 is taking it to the next level.

 

This year it’s all about helping you to radiate brilliance.

 

It’s about erasing your blocks, dropping old baggage and de-activating your triggers.

 

My mission is to help everyone in the group reach their highest potential.

 

I’m thrilled, humbled and grateful that I get to lead this family on a new adventure.

 

I would be honoured if you would join us.

 

Check out all the information here.

 

And come and experience the transformation for yourself.

 

It’s unique, ground-breaking and extraordinary – and you’re invited.

 

See you on the other side…

 

With much love,

 

Michelle xxx

PS – Just imagine what happens when you apply this work to how you feel about yourself and your work… just click here for the details on Prosperity Prescription 2.0.

 

3 Hacks To Improve Your Business, Happiness & Productivity

I found myself in a constant state of almost-anxiety.

 

Not anxiety, but something.

 

A shallowness of breath, not feeling completely relaxed.

 

Compulsively checking my phone to see if anything needed my attention.

 

Feeling relieved if there was nothing to deal with.

 

I did some muscle testing and found that the root cause was ‘Fear of other people being annoyed with me.’

 

And this fear, this trigger, was resulting in me being constantly on the alert.

 

Because if someone had a problem that needed my attention and I failed to respond quickly, they might be annoyed, and to me, that was terrifying.

 

As I did a quick Energy Edit to release my body’s stress response to the trigger, and break the pattern, I realised two things:

 

I’m not superwoman.

 

Literally.

 

I take my work very seriously but as important as my clients and customers are, it’s not life or death.

 

I’m not an emergency room doctor.

 

I don’t have to be on-call 24 hours a day because people are not dying if I don’t check my email.

 

Also, I’m not superwoman.

 

Not the caped version saving lives (see above).

 

And not the modern-day-mythical-creature who’s ‘having it all’.

 

It’s impossible to live a fulfilled life, love your friends and family, have fun, enjoy your work AND be a slave to your inbox with your phone glued to your hand.

 

As much as we don’t want to admit it, it’s true.

 

Those little electronic devices are meant to be our servants, handy tools, not the master of how we spend every waking minute.

 

I gave myself permission right then to step away from the emails.

 

As the fear of ‘someone being annoyed with me’ released, I realised it was time to woman-up and take some action.

 

  1. I deleted my email account from my phone.

 

I knew if I had to sit at my laptop to answer emails, I’d check them far less often.

 

I already have notifications for everything switched off.

 

I don’t want pings, bings, badges and flags interrupting my day.

 

But that didn’t stop me hitting ‘Inbox’ to make it check for new emails way too often.

 

Email access on my phone had to go.

 

This would also eliminate two other silly things I was doing:

 

Tapping out replies on that tiny keyboard when I could do it much faster on the laptop.

 

Or, worse, reading emails twice – once on the phone and again later, because of course I could reply much faster on the laptop…

 

It wasn’t just the emails that were keeping me attached to the phone.

 

I am an avid facebook user.

 

I love The Book (as my Dad calls it).

 

But it’s addictive.

 

It’s an energy-suck, an attention vampire and a time-eating vortex.

 

I’d tried deleting the facebook app from my phone before, but always just ended up downloading it again 24 hours later.

 

This time I vowed just to stop keeping my phone by my side.

 

Maybe you do it too, carry your phone from room to room at home?

 

What the hell is that about?

 

It had to stop.

 

I had to start being conscious of when I was picking it up and not just letting it be something I do for vague entertainment.

 

I put my phone in a drawer in the hallway so it was out of sight until I set aside time to actually use it.

 

I knew that my hands and brain were going to get twitchy for something to do.

 

Like any good habit the quiet moments are when it’s hard to break.

 

Between tasks, waiting for the kids, or making a hot drink, I would usually pick up my phone and start scrolling.

 

I’d love to tell you that I made the switch from using the phone to meditating in silence and that I now have the zen of a Buddhist monk.

 

Or that I started doing push-ups and I now have a six-pack.

 

But I already resist both of those, so they didn’t quite appeal enough to get me to step away from the plastic rectangle.

 

This is what I did:

 

2. Instead of my phone I carry a small notebook.

 

(Fellow stationary lovers, for you: Hardcover, elastic snap to keep it closed, quality paper, A6.)

 

And a pen.

 

(Uni-ball, turquoise ink.)

 

I carry them everywhere.

 

Instead of passively consuming; I’m actively creating.

 

Some of what I write down is complete bollocks.

 

Occasionally I make ugly doodles.

 

But a lot of the time this happens:

 

I make notes for things that will help me and other people.

 

I journal and process ‘stuff’ that I’m working through.

 

I get my ideas out of my head and free up brain space.

 

It’s so simple.

 

It’s nice for my kids see me writing with a pen instead of typing on a screen.

 

(I know, because they told me, like this:

 

“I like it that you’re not on your phone all the time mum.”

 

Yeah, not exactly a Proud Parenting Moment.)

 

I sometimes forget to put my phone away, and when I do, that feeling of ‘busyness’ creeps back in.

 

The over-flowing brain and tension in my gut that stems from the sense that my time is not my own.

 

And my time is my own.

 

Like many of you, I’ve created a business where my time IS mine.

 

I choose the hours I work.

 

I limit the number of clients I take on.

 

I don’t schedule long-running programmes that include monthly calls because when I see it mapped out my calendar I lose my sense of freedom and start to feel sick.

 

And yet still I was filling my days.

 

Making myself answerable to people who didn’t even expect an answer!

 

Why?

 

When I tested for the trigger it came up as ‘It’s safe for me to be perfectly happy’.

 

Apparently I had a limiting belief that it wasn’t.

 

When I did the Energy Edit, up came the subconscious reasons for why it’s not safe for me to be perfectly happy:

 

Like… people don’t like perfectly happy people.

 

And… If you’re perfectly happy it can only go downhill.

 

That’s what my subconscious had been whispering to me.

 

So now my phone sits in the drawer until I actively WANT to use it.

 

For connections that feel harmonious.

 

At times when it feels good to connect.

 

Acknowledging that it’s ‘safe for me to be perfectly happy’ and releasing the fear of ‘someone being annoyed’ led me to the third and final hack.

 

This was a big one for me.

 

I’d tried it twice before and faltered.

 

  1. I handed my email inbox over to a VA.

 

A virtual assistant.

 

Which is a terrible name, because ‘virtual’ means ‘sort of’.

 

And who wants to hand their business to a ‘sort-of’ assistant?

 

Personally, I want a Definite Assistant.

 

(I do realise that it’s virtual because they work remotely, don’t worry.)

 

I couldn’t even imagine how handing over my emails to a VA would work.

 

So I got on a call and asked really stupid questions and this is what I found out…

 

(You might already know this, but if you don’t you might find this as GENIUS as I did.)

 

You set up a new email account and you don’t give the address to anyone apart from your VA.

 

You give your VA access to your business email account.

 

Your VA monitors the emails, replies to anything obvious, deals with anything that doesn’t need your input (this grows the longer you work together.)

 

The emails that DO need your input are forwarded to your secret email address.

 

You monitor that email address once a day – at the very most.

 

You hit reply and send your response back to your main email address.

 

Your VA copies the text over in a reply to the original email and sends it.

 

So you’re still replying to people personally when they need you to.

 

But you don’t have to wade through the stuff that needs admin assistance, or receipts that need filing, or any of the other random stuff that lands there.

 

You don’t have to check emails ‘just in case’ – only to find yourself in the vortex of ‘just quickly’ responding.

 

Your inbox is the to-do list other people want to give you.

 

It’s how other people think you should spend your time.

 

And I’d like to tell you that it’s not just ok for you to choose how you spend your time – it’s not just important.

 

It’s ESSENTIAL.

 

You get to choose.

 

That’s the point of creating your own business.

 

You don’t have a boss.

 

So don’t let the thousands of clients, connections and customers (real and potential) become thousands of bosses who dictate what you do and when you do it.

 

Repeat after me:

 

It is safe for me to be perfectly happy.

 

Have a brilliant day.

 

Lots of love

 

Michelle xxx

Sex In First Class

I flew First Class from the UK to the USA.

 

The cabin was FULL of men.

 

There were four women in total, including myself.

 

The other three were travelling with their husbands.

 

The rest of the First Class passengers were men, travelling alone.

 

When I realised this, I ran through some emotions.

 

Shock:

 

Where all my sisters at?

 

(I’d had a couple of cheeky Bucks Fizzes by this point.)

 

Pride:

 

(Ironically, not proud to admit that, but a little part of me went ‘ooh I’m doing something out of the ordinary here, flying alone First Class under my own steam’.)

 

Curiosity:

 

Seriously. Where all my sisters at?

 

I didn’t manage to vet the intentions of all the male passengers (that might have looked a bit dodgy).

 

But I started eavesdropping, engaging in conversation and innocently finding out what they were travelling for.

 

(Especially easy in the queue for immigration when I got to Atlanta.)

 

Work.

Business.

Being sent by their company.

 

Conferences.

Events.

Big projects.

International offices.

Meetings.

Research.

 

It got me thinking.

 

Maybe this was a one-off, isolated incident and the First Class cabin is usually full of well-paid, high-flying women being spoilt as they jet off on international business.

 

Assuming it wasn’t (and I’d love to hear from you if I’m wrong in that assumption) I wondered…

 

Are male-dominated businesses the ones that operate internationally?

 

Are jobs that require international travel dominated by men?

 

Are women travelling for business but flying in a different cabin?

 

On my connecting flight from Atlanta to Cancun I chatted to a fascinating British chap who lives and works in the US.

 

I told him what I had seen.

 

He told me of a statistic that women only apply for a job if they meet 100% of the requirements – whereas men will have a crack at it if even if they only meet 60%.

 

This Hewlett Packard report found that women didn’t apply for the same reasons as men – but the men who DID apply, despite not meeting the requirements, were aware that other factors would come in to play, and that they were still in with a chance.

 

Women tend to believe that unless they’re 100% perfect, they don’t have a chance.

 

Men are way more likely to speak up, talk about their skills and apply for a job, promotion – and probably a coveted foreign assignment too.

 

There is such an important lesson here.

 

Wherever you’re at, whatever you do, make sure you push yourself forward.

 

If you want something, DON’T list the reasons / excuses / arguments why you’re not good enough to do it or unlikely to get it.

 

Don’t point them out in an application, conversation or interview.

 

(Clearly, common sense applies here, I’m not suggesting you go all Catch Me If You Can and start pretending to be a doctor.)

 

Don’t even list them to yourself.

 

Instead, list the reasons why you’re exactly the right person for the job.

 

Then throw down your cards, get scrappy and put some effort into getting what you want.

 

You might meet 77% of the requirements.

 

You don’t apply because of the missing 23%.

 

And the prize goes to someone else who DID apply even though they met 64%!

 

The percentage doesn’t even factor the unlisted, conceptual requirements: personality, professionalism, likeability, relevant experience and commitment.

 

This also applies if you have your own business.

 

The client you want to win.

 

The course you want to create.

 

Are you waiting to have everything 100% perfect before you step up?

 

Screw that my friend.

 

If you want anything – clients, customers, gigs, interviews – ASK!

 

Make it clear that you are available, interested, eager AND qualified.

 

Don’t list your flaws, shortcomings and weaknesses.

 

Focus on your strengths.

 

Don’t write yourself off before the race even starts.

 

Do you fear being rejected?

 

Then look at it this way.

 

You put yourself forward for something.

 

You put energy, hope and time into it.

 

Maybe you don’t get the result that you wanted.

 

But you gain two vital things…

 

1.  Experience

 

I guarantee you, everything you did to move yourself forward is a lesson well learned.

 

You will gain something from it, even if you don’t know what. I wrote about this here.

 

2.  The Unexpected

 

Every step you take, every door you knock, every connection you make (no this isn’t a song) creates exponential shifts in the world around you – both seen and unseen.

 

It might be as fast and obvious as someone you spoke to recommending you to someone else.

 

Sometimes, it might not be fast and obvious.

 

That doesn’t mean it’s not happening.

 

Every time you move forward, the Universe takes a hundred steps on your behalf.

 

Dots are joined, plans made possible, paths cleared.

 

Just because you can’t see it, doesn’t mean it’s not happening.

 

You don’t know what will come from every opportunity you seize to do something different, fun, exciting or challenging.

 

Don’t decide for someone else that you’re not right for an opportunity.

 

Show up.

 

Show willing.

 

Show your worth.

 

And I’ll see you in the First Class cabin.

 

Huge love,

Michelle xxx

The Energy Editor

Behind The Scenes At Michelle Lowbridge HQ

Lately I’ve been asked these questions a lot…

 

Who writes your copy?

Who plans your launches?

Who did your website?

Who takes your photos?

 

It’s becoming apparent that those wanting to grow their business are feeling disadvantaged because they don’t have a team behind them.

 

So today I’m going to lay it all out there.

 

Let me tell you all about Team Lowbridge…

 

Who takes your photos?

 

My husband took my new photos.

 

It wasn’t even planned.

 

I’d been filming a video for the Limiting Belief Release technique and walked into our front room.

 

Pete was taking photos of Jackson.

 

I smiled and he turned around and took a photo of me.

 

“Oh babe, that’s lovely.  Stay there.”

 

He took a few more.

 

“Let’s have a look then.”

 

I looked… “Bloody hell they do look good, quick take a few more!”

 

So he did.

 

I went and got changed twice and at the end of it had the makings of a re-brand.

 

My fancy photoshoot was me, my hubster and my baby in our sitting room.

 

 

Who designed and built your website?

 

That was the result of some really hot dates.

 

With my husband.

 

On the sofa.

 

With our laptops.

 

I’ll be honest, I tried outsourcing the website.

 

It was just never quite what I wanted.

 

I had a vision for it but I didn’t want to put the hours in myself to get it right.

 

After my second attempt at having some else do it, I realised I just had to do it myself.

 

What stressed me about that idea was that it just seemed such a lonely way to spend time.

 

And I’m not a designer.

 

Pete has a great eye for these things.

 

But I knew if I just handed it over to Pete then he could spend hours on it and come back and it still wouldn’t be just what I wanted.

 

And he’d feel his time had been wasted.

 

So by sitting down together…

 

We kept each other company AND I could immediately give my input AND get his advice.

 

It turned out to be great quality time for us.

 

Team Lowbridge (that’s me and Pete) created something we’re both really proud of.

 

I appreciate that you might not have a patient hubby with a good eye for design – so this is the other point I want to make:

 

My business did NOT start with an awesome website.

 

I hit six figures before I launched this website.

 

So if you think your website is holding you back, that’s just a limiting belief!

 

 

Who writes your copy?

 

Me.

 

I really love reading and writing.

 

And that degree in print journalism is finally coming in handy, 15 years after graduation.

 

I did lose my voice for a short time though.

 

Not my actual voice.  (Insert your own ‘unlucky for Pete’ joke here.)

 

During the ‘sales shame’ period when I lost my way, I took advice from other people about writing to sell.

 

It just didn’t work.

 

I knew I was back on track when my sweet friend, copywriter Hattie Brazeley replied to one of my newsletters saying:

 

“Holy cow mama!  Don’t ever let anyone get their hands on your copy.”

 

Lesson:  You might hear a lot the advice to use your own voice.

 

It’s great advice, and here’s what I would add to it:

 

When you’re writing, think about your actual intention.

 

Be honest about it.

 

The energy of your intention is held in your words.

 

And people can feel it when they read.

 

A perfect example – I’ve wanted to write a sort-of ‘set the record straight about my non-team’ before.

 

But it felt a bit ego-centred.

 

It was purely about me.

 

So I never wrote it.

 

But this time it feels different – and here’s why:

 

My intention right now is to help those who are where I was this time last year and who are freaking out that they can’t make money until they have certain people on their team or hire in certain help.

 

And I know that for every five people messaging me the questions, there are probably 25 more who’d like to ask but don’t.

 

The truth is that maybe a team would be nice but it’s not necessary and it’s certainly not a reason to not start making money!

 

Who plans your launches?

 

No-one!

 

I think this question started to arise last summer when I launched The Prosperity Prescription, and I thanked my friend Amy Birks for her support.

 

Amy is a business strategist.

 

So automatically it was assumed that there was a big complicated strategy behind my success.

 

This was tricky for me, because I didn’t want to play down Amy’s awesomeness, but there also wasn’t some secret formula that I’d been handed or a lot of plotting going on behind the scenes.

 

The biggest gift Amy gave me was recognising that something I was doing for free could be a product.

 

When I told her I could do group energy corrections and erase money blocks for a lot of people at once, she uttered the immortal words:

 

“Well that’s a fricking product right there.”

 

And then she gave me this plan:

 

“Ok you’re going to collect email addresses for the next 48 hours.  Then you’re going to send three emails, one telling them about you and what you do, one telling them what kinesiology is, one telling them about the group.  You’ll send them Saturday, Sunday and Monday and on Monday you launch.”

 

“Um, shouldn’t this be done over a couple of weeks?”

 

“No way!  These are hot leads! Do it now!”

 

And then she spent the next two weeks sharing the joy and excitement as everything fell into place.

 

The rest of the ‘strategy’ just wasn’t planned.

 

The emails included a slideshow and a video because that was a hard-won skill I was determined to use.

 

There wasn’t some big secret formula.

 

It was one of those times when everything just lines up.

 

I was constantly hit with new ideas and actions that just seemed to come out of nowhere.

 

I can only describe it as spending two weeks being totally in the flow.

 

A few months later I tried to recreate the success of that launch and failed.

 

I tried a ‘strategy’, a ‘plan’ and being told what to do and when – and it was a disaster.

 

Right now I’m launching my new course, Be Your Own Energy Editor.

 

No strategy.

 

No plan.

 

No team.

 

Not even ‘three emails and a sales video’.

 

Just an idea, a sales page, good intentions and a lot of fun.

 

Only taking action on my own ideas.

 

Back in the flow, enjoying every second and doing only what feels right.

 

This morning I hit 116 sales.

 

I’d told my Prosperity Prescription family that my target was 100 and that I felt a bit vulnerable after the last failure.

 

When I told them I’d reached my goal, the lovely, and very wise, Suzy Ashworth said: “Here’s to public declarations from a place of alignment.”

 

She nailed it.

 

That’s the perfect word to describe what happened last summer and what just happened again this week.

 

Being in alignment.

 

When you have that, the only team you truly need is made of:

 

You – being honest with yourself.

 

And good friends – who truly want to share your joy.

 

I hope you have both of those.

 

With huge love and encouragement,

 

Michelle xxx

The Energy Editor

PS – You can still join my live classroom for Be Your Own Energy Editor!  Come and get the details here.

 

Failure To Launch

Have you heard of Happiness For Mums, the online course?

 

No?

 

That’s not surprising.

 

It was a belly-flop into the pool of online business.

 

This time last year I spent an average of 12 hours a day at my computer.

 

I was determined.

 

Single-minded.

 

Focused.

 

Driving forward with intense purpose.

 

In completely the wrong direction.

 

Let me explain.

 

In June 2013 I left the green hills of The Shire to visit the rocky mountains of Colorado.

 

I went to an event hosted by Mike ‘Notes from The Universe’ Dooley and became an Infinite Possibilities certified trainer.

 

It was amazing, life-changing and despite having gone there just because I wanted to, I decided within the first few hours that I was going to teach the programme when I got back home.

 

Within a week of returning I’d booked a venue for my IP class, had 25 ladies (and a brave man) signed up and couldn’t believe how much I loved teaching.

 

Over the next few months I taught more than 500 student hours, and gradually the programme morphed into my own version of IP.

 

My ‘students’ were mostly mums, and I identified with their hopes, dreams and frustrations.

 

Or rather, I identified with their complete shock that they were allowed to have hopes, dreams and frustrations.

 

I lost myself completely after having my second baby, setting me on a long journey of discovery, investigation and a search for answers to some fundamental questions.

 

Like – if I have everything I’m ‘meant’ to have (husband, lovely children, nice home, my own business) why am I still so sad?

 

What am I missing?

 

I studied evolution, religion, quantum physics, mankind, energy, happiness…

 

And gradually began to piece together my own idea of a life well lived.

 

And there I stood, years later, pregnant with my third child, and able to share these ideas with other mums in my Happiness For Mums classes.

 

It felt really good.

 

The awesome women who attended went to achieve all sorts of exciting things… including starting a charity and publishing a book.

 

And because I was planning maternity leave, I thought it would be a perfect idea to turn Happiness for Mums into an online course.

 

So I did.

 

I spent hundreds of hours creating slideshows with slides and graphics animated to my voice-over.

 

I made videos for each module.

 

Lavished hours upon hours perfecting PDFs and making them fillable.

 

At each stage I had to learn everything from scratch.

 

Adobe Acrobat.

 

Canva.

 

Keynote.

 

Imovie.

 

Setting the entire thing up in one course-hosting platform.

 

Then realising it didn’t have the functionality I required and moving it somewhere else.

 

Creating an affiliate programme, a sales page, a website.

Collecting and collating testimonials.

 

I got it done a few weeks before my baby was due and it felt fantastic.

 

My original plan had been to get the course built whilst pregnant, then wait.

 

Have the baby, then when I was ready to start doing a bit of work, spend the next year doing the marketing before finally launching it and making my fortune.

 

But when it was all done, and sitting there, and I was so happy with it, it seemed silly not to launch it.

 

So I did.

 

I posted about it on my facebook page.

 

And my personal profile.

 

I posted about it in a couple of groups I was in.

 

I sent an email out to my mailing list.

 

I repeated the above.

 

Twice.

 

Nothing happened.

 

Literally nothing.

 

I ran a competition to give away three free places.

 

I got five entries.

 

I was so confused.

 

I’d read enough Launch Success Stories – why wasn’t it happening for me?

 

I offered a 75% discount to a few people.

 

I got two sales.

 

(That was actually really exciting.)

 

Looking back I can see clearly where I went wrong – and what I did exactly right.

 

So I thought you might like to know.

 

Failure to Launch, Mistake Number One.

 

I did no real market research.

 

Asking the people who had taken the class would they be interested in an online version and them politely saying ‘yes of course’ was not market research.

 

Confidently telling people what I was doing and them buzzing off my enthusiasm was not market research.

 

Friends and family being so lovely that they always believe in me was not market research.

 

I WANTED to create the course.

 

It ‘made sense’ for me personally to create an online version, so I just decided that there ‘had’ to be a market for it.

 

Lesson Learned – do PROPER market research.

 

Make sure there is an actual demand.

 

Don’t just hope / assume / guess that there is.

 

Especially if you’re going to spend 12 hours a day, most days for 5 months creating it.

 

And it’s possible that there is a demand, somewhere, for Happiness for Mums, the online course.

 

But I certainly wasn’t tapped into it.

 

Which leads me to Failure to Launch, Mistake Number Two.

 

I wasn’t wired into a network of mums that wanted a Happiness course.

 

I don’t identify myself as a mum first and foremost.

 

I don’t hang out online in groups specifically aimed at mums.

 

I did in the past.

 

I have some amazing friends all over the world who I only know because we were part of a sanity-saving mum’s forum when I had my first daughter 10 years ago.

 

Maybe if I’d stayed in that network as a mentor like the more experienced mums were to me when I was a rookie, then I would have been in the right place.

 

But I didn’t.

 

So instead I found myself at a loss.

 

I didn’t want to fake fitting in just to sell something.

 

So I didn’t have a network of lovely people on my wavelength to share with.

 

If you want a visual representation of how this looks in terms of a launch:

 

Go to your front door.

 

Open the door.

 

Shout “Happiness for Mums!”

 

Close the door and wait for the sale.

 

Do not hold your breath whilst waiting.

 

Lesson Learned – Genuinely WANT to hang out with your ideal customers and be an active member of their online life.

 

If you’re building a course about organic food but you’d rather be chatting about poodles, it’s a hint you’re on the wrong track.

 

Also remember – you don’t have to build a course!

 

Failure to Launch Mistake Number Three

 

Your first product launch is not the time to Go Big or Go Home.

 

You don’t have to pour your entire 35 years of experiences into one idea.

 

As we say in the Shire: “Take it steady.”

 

Think about the people you are naturally drawn to, who you like to spend time with, and what they need.

 

Is it something you can provide?

 

Write a blog post.

 

Make one PDF.

 

Record a video.

 

Just do something, create something and put it out into the world, then you can gauge the reaction, see what there is demand for and then take more action.

 

Lesson Learned – Don’t wait for perfect.

 

You can travel a long way taking baby steps – and it’s a lot easier to stay on the right track if you check your direction occasionally.

 

 

Failure to Launch Mistake Four

 

Thinking of anything as a failure.

 

Nothing you do is wasted.

 

Nothing.

 

Never – ever – waste a second on thinking you failed.

 

My super-smart friend Jonathan Benjamin sums this up perfectly:

 

“You either win or you learn. Either way you win.”

 

All those months at my desk last year were spent learning.

 

The success I’m having now can be traced back to that ‘failure’ to launch experience.

 

A few month later, I wanted to create The Prosperity Prescription and I needed to act fast.

 

We’re talking 72 hours for an entire product launch – and guess what?

 

I knew how to set up a membership site.

 

I had everything set up to take payments.

 

I knew my way around mailing lists.

 

I knew how to create a cool slideshow.

 

I could use iMovie and edit a video.

 

There were so many skills from the previous months that came into play.

 

And not only that.

 

The launch was based around kinesiology skills that I had given up on monetising until a few weeks before when I had discovered a way to erase money blocks.

 

I wanted to write my own copy – and that (long-forgotten) degree in Print Journalism suddenly came in really handy.

 

I wasn’t terrified by posting a video of myself online because I’d forced myself to film one in a ‘failed’ attempt at a B-School scholarship.

 

And I was connected to an amazing group of people because I was having fun getting to know them online and we naturally had shared interests.

 

Suddenly everything made sense.

 

All those steps that I’d somehow felt guided to take last year, were hugely important.

 

Without those skills I doubt I would have made $45,267 in two weeks.

 

Lesson Learned – Just keep taking intuitive action, because you don’t actually know how amazing things have the potential to be.

 

Keep showing up.

 

Every day, do something towards your goals.

 

Because you cannot actually fail.

 

Get some advice from people you trust.

 

Listen to those who have gone before you.

 

But also, follow your inner guidance.

 

Because if something is telling you to stay up until 3am, editing slideshows with a numb arse from your office chair, who knows what’s in store for you?

 

It might be a skill that will contribute to you launching a six-figure business a few months from now.

 

You know better than anyone what’s the right thing for you to do next.

 

Trust yourself.

 

Listen to your instincts.

 

Because when you get to where you’re heading, and the pieces fall into place around you, the random stuff you’re doing right now will ALL make sense.

 

I promise.

 

With love, as always,

 

Michelle xxxx

PS – I’d love to help make your business dreams come true. Shall we?

3 Signs That You’re In – Or Near – Your Zone Of Genius.

The zone of genius. 

What is it?

It basically means that you’re doing that thing that you do better than anybody. 

You’ve found your purpose.

Aligned it with your passion, combined it with your Big Why…

…mixed in your unique skills, and rolled it up into one amazing thing that you just LOVE to do –

 And that people are happy to pay you well to do it.

The ZoG is that tiny niche where you operate at your peak.

You’re so shit-hot at it, that you’re lightening streaks ahead.

You’re constantly innovating and moving forward, and you have so many creative ideas you literally don’t know what to do with them.

When you work in your zone of genius, it feels brilliant. 

But as you’re approaching it, you might start to doubt yourself. 

You might question whether this is the exact thing for you.

You might look around at what others are doing and panic that you’ve got it wrong.

Maybe you halt or change direction, or worse, start imitating someone else.

So, here are three handy signs that you’re in – or approaching – your zone of genius.

These are indications that you’re on the right path, to inspire you to keep going and hold the faith that it will all work out perfectly…

  1. When asked the reason for your journey, you’re not sure whether to say Business or Pleasure.
  1. Your company expenses include books that you’d buy anyway.
  1. You can’t stop doing what you do.


Ok, maybe if you’re just starting out in business, you’re not doing a huge amount of travel.   

But that conference or event for your industry, full of like-minded people – would you have gone – and had an amazing time – even if it wasn’t linked to your business? 

Yes? 

Then you’re hitting that sweet spot where you get to do cool shit that you really love, and it’s part of your ‘job’. 

Similarly, number 2.  

Do the books you read for research, business development and widening your knowledge also get you fired up and fascinated? 

Or does reading them feel like a heavy obligation and you can’t wait to switch the TV on?

When you start to pinch yourself because you can’t believe that your business expenses include things that get you really excited, it’s a sure sign that you’re on the right track.

And 3…

You just can’t stop doing what you do.

You find inspiration everywhere. 

You want to help everybody. 

You’re constantly thinking of new ideas. 

You’re happy when you’re working.  You love your clients. 

Hello, Zone of Genius!

Which leads me to my final point, which is perhaps the most important of all.

If you find that you were feeling like this but now you’re not – that’s ok! 

It doesn’t mean that you’re on the wrong track.

It may well just mean that you need to do some things differently.

I’m talking boundaries.

If you’re going to operate in your zone of genius, you need boundaries. 

And – essentially – you need other people to know what your boundaries are.

Let me explain…

I’m a kinesiologist.  (The Energy Editor).   

My zone of genius is editing your money story and erasing your money blocks – so that you can claim your zone of genius and attract wealth without limits. 

When I fell upon this path last summer I thought:  ‘That’s it’, I’ve done it, I’ll just keep doing exactly the same things forevermore.’

So it was a real shock when I started to feel frustrated.

I LOVE working one-on-one with clients but scheduling hour-long appointments across time differences drove me crazy. 

Solution – Instead of scheduling a course of sessions, I now run VIP days where we do all of the energy work in one go.

I LOVE having an amazing Facebook group of gorgeous people to do energy work for, but spending hours worrying about all of their problems would give me anxiety.

Solution – I set out very clear boundaries as to the intentions of the programme and what we do and don’t focus on there.

Here’s the key:

Each time you hit upon something that takes the joy out of your work, don’t go into fear and doubt:

‘Oh maybe this isn’t my zone of genius after all, maybe I should do x, y or z instead.’

Instead, find a way to eliminate the problem and bring the joy back – fast.

Don’t allow small bumps to force you off the road – find a way to navigate them.

There is always a way to do what you love, in a way that you love doing it.

So there we have it, three signs you’re in – or near – your zone of genius, and what to do if you feel off-track.

Huge amounts of love to you!

Michelle xxx
The Energy Editor