I had a clear intention at the start of the year.
If anyone asked me what I was up to, I said “I’m training practitioners in Energy Editing in March, and then after that I’m going to write my book before the next training in June.”
And that’s exactly what I did.
And it was all hunky-dory. The first training was magic, and the book got written. The June training was filling up rapidly.
I felt restless. Worried about everything, satisfied by nothing.
Logically, feeling crappy didn’t make sense, which made me feel worse.
Muscle testing revealed: “Self-esteem is oscillating between my old level of value and my new level of value.” (Apparently my subconscious uses words like ‘oscillating’, it’s very Colin Firth.)
I did some energy work to sort it out, including some fears around being depended on by a large number of people, some stress around how much time I have available, and some cracking limiting beliefs, including: “If I were wealthy I’d be unable to handle the expectations of others.”
With that sorted, I was amazed a few days later that I still felt like a bag of pants.
I was beginning to annoy myself.
Did you know you can tell a lot about your energy from the way that traffic behaves around you when you drive your car?
Bit weird if you’re new to this sort of thing, but true.
I won’t go into the physics of why this happens, that’s another blog post, but essentially, the energy around you is a reflection of your energy.
Usually when I’m driving, it’s happy days. Fairly clear roads, tunes on, a healthy mutual respect for my fellow road-users.
If it’s any other way, I know that something’s going on.
So when I drove a 20-mile round-trip, in our quiet countryside, and kept seeing police cars everywhere, it did briefly cross my mind that it was a warning of some sort. When people started stepping into the road in front of me without even looking to check the traffic, I got the memo.
THE ROAD AHEAD IS BLOCKED.
Very clever Universe, if perhaps a little bit fecking dangerous.
I got home, straight to my desk, and started muscle testing.
‘What road and what is blocking it?’
Answer: The road to my big goal – buying a big house – is blocked because I don’t think it’s possible. I don’t believe it’s possible because I don’t know what I’m going to do next in the business, at a level that will enable me to buy that dream house.
Firstly, as a lover of the Law of Attraction, I should know WAY better than to be thinking about ‘how’ something will happen. It’s not up to me,
However, in my own business and life, I’m a meddler. I fiddle about. I tinker and investigate, and constantly seek improvement. Often that’s a good thing.
And then the penny dropped.
I don’t like not knowing what I’m going to do next.
It makes me uncomfortable, lethargic, and quite frankly, a bit miserable.
So the last few weeks have been an interesting little excursion for me and my funny little human self, to a place called “NOT KNOWING.”
At this point in writing this blog post, I stopped to go to a local pub for ginger beer and ice cream (can anyone say Enid Blyton) with the hubster, kids, and my parents, to celebrate my book, Wealthology, becoming a UK and US bestseller.
As we were leaving to come home, my Dad asked: “So what’s next?”
I replied: “I don’t know.”
His reaction said it all.
“You don’t know! You don’t know. You don’t know? Ooh. That’s different.”
“I know it’s weird isn’t it Dad? I’m actually just writing a blog about it, called ‘what to do when you don’t know what to do next.”
“Are you really? Well how about that. Not knowing.”
My mum nudged him: “Give her a chance, she’s just published a book. So much pressure!”
Dad raised his eyebrows: “I’m not pressuring her. She just always has a plan. We tend to always have a plan.”
“He’s right mum. He’s not pressuring me. He’s just a perfect demonstration of why I’m programmed the way I am. My brain is always on at me to have a plan, and move to the next thing, and this time I don’t know what I want to do.”
Dad sat quietly for a few minutes whilst we rounded up the kids.
Then, with typical, understated wisdom, he said: “It’s about not knowing. The next thing – it’s to not know, isn’t it?”
“Yes! That’s what I’ve been doing, figuring out how to ‘not know’ without it doing my head in completely.”
“Take more time off, go with the flow, see what happens?”
“Yes, and finding the balance between having intentions, and taking action, and knowing when to let go. Like people have asked me, ‘how are you celebrating the book launch?’ and I’m thinking, ‘Celebrating on launch day? I’m not celebrating, I’m thinking about finishing the day knowing that I did my absolute best to make the launch a success.’ Even today, coming here is a bit like something I just needed to tick off a list: Celebration – Check. I feel like I need to plan a full celebration when things settle down a bit.”
We both laughed. Enid Blyton and irony. Such a riot, old chum!
Here I am, back at my desk, and I want to share with you what I’ve learnt that makes not knowing much easier, if you’re also a Natural Born Planner.
- Accept that you don’t know what to do.
Resistance to not knowing creates as much stress as not knowing. Find some peace around the idea that you don’t currently have a plan. This might be obvious to you, but for me personally, if I don’t have a plan, my instinct is to say ‘Right lads, we’ll solve this lack-of-plan-problem by coming up with a plan right now.’
That’s how I’d spent the previous few days before I realised I’d got a (hopefully return) ticket to Notknowingsville. Brainstorming, pushing, forcing, researching, determined to decide what I wanted to do next. But nothing felt right, nothing aligned, nothing clicked.
In true Serenity prayer style, it was time to ‘accept the things that I cannot change’. Confession: I’d always thought that part was a lovely bit of wisdom, very useful for other people, and that I was totally brilliant at it. HA! I’d just never really hit upon something I couldn’t solve with a bit of planning and execution, in my business before.
It took me a fair amount of energy work to release my addiction to knowing what’s next, and I’m still peeling back layers on my love of hustle and grind. (Is that a dance move?)
Here are some fears and limiting beliefs to look out for, that might be messing with you, like they were with me:
Fear of failing
Fear of not trying hard enough
Fear of being accused of not working hard. (Because apparently it’s 1849.)
Fear of not doing my best for my family
If I don’t have a plan it will all go to shit. (Yep, that’s a limiting belief.)
When I’m not pushing I’m being lazy
If I don’t hustle I won’t succeed
I should know what I want to do
With the resistance and stress beginning to reduce, the inner battle cooled down and I stopped annoying myself. I still had no idea what to do next, so I tried all sorts of things. What, you didn’t think I was just going to just find peace and stop there did you?
- Separate your Big-Big Goal from your business
If you’ve established that you don’t know what to do next in your business, then what would you like to achieve in your personal life? How would you like to feel?
There is so much advice about goal setting, and personally I think it’s down to your own preference. I think it’s great to have a Big-Big goal, and I also think it can be very stressful to link it to a particular component of your business, and as entrepreneurs it’s natural to do that.
It looks like this:
I want to own a big house. I want to buy that big house now. It’s going to cost $1,000,000. I must make that money in my business.
And off I go, down the rabbit hole, pushing for ideas and stressing out because I can’t see where that money will be created, and what if my family think I hate them because I haven’t worked hard enough to buy a big family home.
How about this instead:
I want to own a big house. I have no idea how that’s going to happen. I’m excited to see how it does happen. In the business right now, I’m doing everything that feels aligned, to the best of my ability, and I’m excited to see what happens.
Feel the difference?
There’s so much relief in separating your Big-Big Goal from your immediate actions. Check in with yourself and see what extra pressure you’ve added to your business, and how it’s really affecting your mindset.
- Sit quietly.
If you don’t call it meditation, it’s less likely to trigger your inner Busy Monkey. Essentially, just sit the hell down, use ear plugs or white noise if you’re distracted by noise, close your eyes, and just stop.
Stop talking, stop moving, stop looking at stuff.
If you haven’t done this before you might feel like you want to axe someone’s head off for the first few minutes. Push through!
No time to sit quietly?
Bollocks, we’ve all got 15 minutes a couple of times a week.
It’s not a time issue, it’s a resistance-to-sitting-alone-with-no-distractions issue.
Why are we sitting quietly, you ask?
Well guess what, when we cease all activity, the Mind Monkeys go MENTAL, and then, just when you accept that they won’t shut up, they tire themselves out. The second that happens, you’re no longer being driven by that funny little human brain. The real ‘you’ gets to take over.
Yeah, you’re not a brain. You’re a spark of fricking light that broke off the sun and went through a billion evolutions, before deciding to give this life a go, and zipping yourself into the human suit you’re currently wearing.
And when you get really quiet, and take all the stimuli and distractions away from the human suit, the spark of light takes over.
Then guess what?
You’ve got a billion-year-old ray of wisdom in charge.
It’s basically like having Morgan Freeman making all the decisions.
Here’s an example of the difference between me and my Inner Morgan Freeman making decisions.
Me: “What to do, what to do? Must have a plan. I know, I’d like to make $1,000,000 and the way I think I can do that is to…”
(Confession: I muscle tested the energy of that particular idea, and it was ‘arrogant’. HA! I’ve never been insulted by the Universe before. It was followed up with this explanation: ‘It’s lacking my essence and what my heart wants to do next.’ Which was true.)
Morgan: “It’s lovely and peaceful in here. I feel lovely and calm. It’s great that $1,000,000 is on its way. What would be the very best thing that I could do? The most inspired, creative fun thing. I know, I’ll…”
Morgan’s advice is always a winner. Having been around a billion years, he knows stuff.
I jokingly call my Dad the Guru. Did you notice I mentioned that he sat quietly before speaking? He does that a lot. He’s one very chilled out, wise, funny dude, who gives brilliant advice, and can find a solution for anything. Him and Morgan? Best mates.
- Baby Steps
These are the small, easy actions that are right in front of you. Now, this doesn’t mean those evasive actions like cleaning the back of cupboards, or any of those things that we do, when we don’t want to do the things we need to do.
I think there are two main types of baby steps, and I’ll tell you the difference, using me as an example – knowing I want a house, whilst not knowing what I want to do next in my business…
- Steps towards the Big-Big goal – looking at houses online, viewing property, talking to the hubster about what we’d like.
- Steps that relate to current commitments – marketing the book, preparing for the training in June, rebranding my website.
And here’s the secret sauce.
The steps that relate to the Big-Big goal are done with joy and excitement, not taken too seriously, and are a gift to yourself.
The steps that relate to current commitments are done with joy and excitement, taken very seriously, and are about using your gifts to serve others to the very best of your ability.
If you apply these principles to your baby steps, you’ll be amazed at what unfolds, because they create two different types of energy that attracts success and opportunity.
You can walk a surprisingly enormous distance using teeny-tiny, wobbly baby steps, and that’s not all – baby steps always lead to your end goal, even when you can’t see the next ‘via’ point.
- Take a gestation vacation
Just stop needing to know what you don’t know, and give yourself a week or two of not thinking about it. Give yourself official permission to stop.
During this time, write down every idea you have. Every inspiration, business idea, day dream, aspiration, blog post idea, person to contact, place you’d like to go, thing you’d like to learn. Just write them down.
You’ll start to see how many more options are available to you than you realise, and all sorts of ideas will download.
This is one holiday that will be much more beneficial if you spend a lot of it hanging out with Morgan Freeman. This blog post was one of his ideas, when we were sitting by the fire one evening a couple of weeks ago.
- Switch off social media
Seeing what everyone else is doing when you’re not doing anything can be really stressful.
Think of yourself as pregnant with an idea. You have to start nurturing your baby way before it’s born. Peace, calm, wholesome connection, good food, lots of water and lots more kindness. Not hours spent scrolling your phone screen like a rat hitting a button and hoping for a shot of social media dopamine.
Extending your energy into the vacuum of ‘what everyone else says they’re doing’ is not good for the idea-baby.
There are too many tiny jolts to the system in between the hits of dopamine. Take Facebook off your phone, limit the time you spend at your laptop, and believe me when I say that you really won’t miss out on anything that important. If the world breaks, someone will call you.
- Have fun connecting with other people
Arrange to see your funniest friends as soon as possible. Hang out with a toddler who just started forming sentences. Anything that makes you laugh. Spend time with people you love, put the focus on them, and enjoy yourself.
This is perhaps the easiest one to do… and also the hardest. I am notorious for spending too many hours at my desk, withdrawing when I’m busy, and not knowing when to stop working. I also know without doubt that connection and laughter have a very particular energy, which attracts only good things, and sparks the most unexpected, marvelous surprises.
Earlier this year, I spent a remarkable amount of time (for introvert me) connecting with people on Skype when I usually would have been working. I remember thinking at the time, ‘This is weird, I really like it, even though it doesn’t really seem to have a purpose, I guess it’s ok that I’m not really working’. And guess what? I can’t tell you how many brilliant conversations, ideas, friendships, and support have resulted from those calls.
- If too much choice is a problem
Feel like you don’t know what to do because there are so many options? If you’ve tried getting quiet, and you’ve checked in for resistance and cleared any fears that might be blocking you, and you still don’t want to move forward, then it might be that none of the choices you can currently see are the right ones.
Write down your options. Let’s call them A,B,C. Now do you love any of those options? If so, then fear is the only thing stopping you, and you really do know what to do. If not, then here’s the good news. There’s an option D. You just don’t know what it is yet.
And here’s what we know about option D: It can be whatever you want it to be.
What’s your ideal option? What does it look like, feel like, sound like? Who is there with you? When you think about your ideal option, it’s likely that the mind monkeys start kicking in with reasons why it isn’t possible. That’s not the same as not knowing. Open your mind to there being a perfect solution that feels completely aligned, that you’re just not aware of yet.
And one final secret for you – Option D shows up a lot faster when you practice the first six steps I shared.
There you have it.
My guide to what to do when you don’t know what to do next.
Accept that you don’t know.
Separate your Big-Big goal from your business.
Take baby steps.
Take a Gestation Vacation.
Switch off social media.
Remember there’s always an option D.
These are the things I’ve been up to for the last few weeks, and although I still don’t know what I want to do next, I’m totally ok with that. I’m showing up, and I trust that the Big U has a plan, even if I don’t.
What are you going to do right now?
Let me know!
The Energy Editor
PS – If you like my writing, you’ll probably like my book – it’s free right now on Amazon – find it here.
Well this is embarrassing.
But I have a confession.
And an invitation to a celebration.
Remember when I launched Prosperity Prescription 2.0 in the summer?
I talked about it a LOT.
For two weeks, non-stop.
And then since then, unless you’re in the programme, you probably haven’t heard anything about it.
There’s a reason for that.
The launch was so successful that I was embarrassed to talk about it.
Yep, the queen of smashing upper limits, smacked head first into her own and has been subconsciously crippled by it ever since.
It was all going pretty well.
I was working hard, putting in long hours and pushing the launch boulder up the mountain.
The sales were coming in fairly steadily but slow enough to keep me pushing.
I was determined (my ego was determined) to ‘beat’ last year’s total of $45,267.
I was coming up against all sorts of inner ‘stuff’ during the launch and clearing it and moving forward, and clearing it again.
I did a lot of ‘growing’. It was uncomfortable but that in itself was kind of comforting.
Because I was trying hard.
A mantra from my childhood – “Well done, you tried really hard then, whatever happens, no-one can say you didn’t try hard.”
So if I was trying hard, then the outcome was fine whatever happened –
Try hard and fail, well at least I tried hard.
Try hard and succeed, well then I deserved it.
The night before the early-bird price ended, I was getting near the $40k mark.
That felt good. I was going to be close enough to last year not to feel like a failure.
My husband wasn’t going to be looking for another teaching job.
So I relaxed.
I celebrated with my family.
And the sales started flooding in.
Over the next 48 hours the total rose to $72,000.
On one hand I was ecstatic, thrilled, joyful.
And on the other hand I didn’t know how to handle it.
I hadn’t worked hard for that final $32,000.
Therefore did I really deserve it?
I had smacked into the upper limit of what I felt I was worth and deserving of.
And so I kept quiet about it.
I mentioned it once, hidden in a blog post where I also outed myself for not saving any money and spending ‘too much’ – to play down my achievements and make it ‘ok’ that I’d made this money.
I didn’t realise how much the shame of it was affecting me until yesterday.
I was wondering why people weren’t still joining Prosperity Prescription, so I started muscle-testing for some answers.
I found two things.
One – that people didn’t know it was still open because I have hardly mentioned it since.
Two – that I hadn’t been truly grateful for the financial gifts I’d received. Essentially I’d told the Universe ‘no more’ by failing to make a public declaration of thanks.
Now I’m not saying that everyone has to make a public declaration of thanks for the great things they receive (although the world be awesome if they did.)
But in my role as an expert in changing your energy so that you can make more money whilst really enjoying yourself, it’s really important for me to talk about these things.
I have a responsibility to my ‘online family’ and my clients, and anyone who is inspired to change their relationship to money, to be totally open about these things – I have to practise what I preach.
But for the last few months my subconscious has been playing a subliminal recording that I just didn’t pick up on. It was whispering…
You didn’t earn this. You don’t deserve it. You better not fricking tell anyone or people will HATE you, and your friends will desert you. You didn’t work hard enough for it and so you better not enjoy it. You should be ashamed of yourself.
Up on the surface things are ok, I’ve had tricky days and great days and everything in between.
But always a sense that something wasn’t quite right.
And truly, on some level, knowing that it was tied to that $72,000 and trying really hard to ignore it, because what the hell sort of idiot is going to admit making that sort of money for not a huge amount of effort?
Well, this idiot is.
Because the truth is this – feeling shitty about not deserving it meant that I didn’t speak sincerely about it. And being insincere about things always makes me feel shitty. And feeling shitty meant that I couldn’t be sincere.
See the cycle? A washing machine stuck on a spin cycle of shame.
After doing some work around this over the last couple of days, I now know this:
I’m more attached to my own values of sincerity, honesty, and integrity than I am to anything else.
So here it is.
A public declaration that I made a lot of money.
A public apology to the people that joined the programme that we didn’t celebrate the launch. An apology to those that love me, that I didn’t feel deserving enough of the money – or your love – to celebrate with you.
And a public invitation to you to do two things –
One, is to celebrate with me, because I would really appreciate it.
Two, is to think about this –
If you’re feeling a bit ‘off’ or out of alignment, ask yourself –
What is the last thing that you received that was fantastic?
On some level, did you feel you didn’t deserve it?
And if so, why?
And when you’ve taken a few minutes to figure that out, send me a message or a comment or an email, and tell me – so that I can celebrate with you, and tell you that you, 100%, deserved it.
I truly love to celebrate other people’s success and joy and gifts, and I’d be honoured to celebrate with you, and in doing so we invite the Universe to send us more of the same – and better.
To a 2016 of celebration, rising higher and acting in alignment…
Sending so much love
The Energy Editor
I remember when I was first told about kinesiology.
My first daughter was eight months old and she was a really fussy eater.
And as a new mum, I was petrified she would starve (or wake up in the night) so I only fed her what she liked.
Which was mostly yoghurt.
A friend told me to go and see a kinesiologist.
I nodded, smiled and completely ignored her.
By the time Ellie was 14 months old she would eat yoghurt and toast with marmite.
That was it.
No vegetables. Nothing green.
When my friend suggested kinesiology again, I thought I might as well try it.
The practitioner – a Health Kinesiologist – did some muscle testing (more about that later) and said:
“She has four allergies. Bakers yeast, brewers yeast, sugar and lactose.”
“Oh,” I said –
“That’s weird, because she only eats toast, marmite (made from brewer’s yeast), and sugary yoghurts.”
To which the practitioner replied calmly, as if she wasn’t about to change my life forever:
“Yes, the body usually craves that which it is allergic to…. Would you like me to correct these allergies now?”
“Um, say what now?”
“Shall I rebalance the energy so that these substances are no longer a problem?”
If my eyebrows could have risen any higher they’d have left my face.
“I thought you’d just tell me what the allergies are and we’d have to avoid them.”
In her mind she was clearly thinking “Bollocks to that.”
But very professionally, she said:
“Oh no, we’ll get this sorted right away.”
And she did.
We left that day and for six weeks Ellie wouldn’t eat toast.
She began eating all sorts of other things.
Most amazing of all, her favourite food became fresh, raw vegetables.
Even now, at 11 years old, she calls a salad ‘my normal dinner’.
Needless to say, I was overjoyed.
But that wasn’t the only magic that happened in that session.
Along with the allergy corrections, the practitioner also found and corrected some energy blocks.
These were emotional things like fears and things that troubled her little mind.
She even stopped her night-terrors.
Health Kinesiology gives you phrases to think, which create stress in the body.
By releasing the stress whilst it’s being triggered, you completely release the block.
Which means you’re no longer triggered.
And you don’t get stressed or overwhelmed by the things that were previously stressing or overwhelming you.
The phrases I was given to think on Ellie’s behalf were so perfect in describing her little personality.
I was fascinated.
I booked myself in for the following week.
The work was so accurate, it so pointedly zoomed in on my root fears and resolved the things that I struggled with, that it blew my mind.
For example, she honed in on my extreme problems with trust, a hangover from a previous relationship.
Since then, I’ve found and married the hubster.
And I know for sure that I wouldn’t have lasted the long-distance-beginning of our relationship if I hadn’t been able to trust him at all.
I kept going back for more sessions.
The changes I – and my family – experienced were so profound
I finally decided: “I have to learn how to do this.”
In 2009 I started studying in earnest.
The training for Health Kinesiology is intense.
Hundreds of hours studying, reading and practicing with volunteers.
It has to be.
It’s a huge responsibility to work with someone’s energy.
I am making changes in your energy system.
Your energy system is the blueprint for your body, mind and emotions.
It’s like your motherboard.
Would you take your laptop to McDonalds to be repaired?
I take this work very seriously.
After completing the five levels required to gain certification, in February of 2011 I began working professionally.
I saw a large range of clients with a variety of issues in my practice, from sleep problems to emotional traumas.
Together we achieved fantastic results.
One of the Health Kinesiology laws is:
The Impossible Just Takes A Little Bit Longer.
I loved the feeling of a client leaving the treatment room after 60 minutes and their entire life had been turned around for the better.
While I was establishing my practice, I aced my extra studies in nutrition, anatomy and physiology, counseling skills, practice-management and Touch for Health.
(I know, Braggy Braggerson, but I take this shiz seriously!)
With these extra certification, at the end of 2013 I reached Kinesiology Federation Registered Practitioner (KFRP) status with the Kinesiology Federation, UK.
This is the highest level awarded unless you become a teacher.
I am very aware that I have a great deal of responsibility to work accurately, ethically and reliably.
My clients count on me to facilitate shifts in their energy that completely change the way they experience life.
When you work with me, you are – literally – in safe hands.
I have practiced and practiced my skills on hundreds of clients over the years, and now it’s like the energy I’m working on becomes an extension of me.
I use a combination of intuition and a specialized muscle-testing system which gives your body an infinite number of options to communicate to me what it needs, but allows me to work very fast.
I’ve developed many techniques and methods of my own.
Coupled with my extra-curricular interest in the quantum field and the laws of the Universe, the energy work I do has become completely unique.
This means that I can achieve accelerated results, which you might not find in traditional kinesiology.
And enables me to work with big groups.
All over the world.
With energy corrections that activate when the members start thinking.
As one of my clients put it:
“You’re really playing at the very edge of what we know about the quantum field.”
I’d never really thought about it before.
But hearing it made this lady-geek very happy.
It’s true that no-one else does what I do, in the way that I do it.
So what is it that I do?
There are two key elements:
- Kinesiology – finding out what the blocks are and how to erase them (which is what I’m going to explain now)
- Energy Correcting – erasing the blocks (which I’ll talk about next time)
Let’s start with the basics…
Kinesiology means ‘the science of movement in the body.’
What I’m doing is monitoring a stress response – or movement – in one very sensitive muscle.
By monitoring how that muscle responds to various stressors and triggers I can quickly determine what your blocks are and how to release them.
The kinesiology part is all about determining the What and the How:
In my treatment room, in-person:
– I rest your elbow on the table with your arm at a 45 degree angle.
– I check that the arm is in the ‘test position’.
– If the body is in stress, when I apply light pressure to your wrist then your arm will physically move downward.
– If the body is not in stress then your arm will stay strong – the muscle is locked.
– After I run a system of checks and balances to ensure that your body is giving me accurate answers I begin to muscle test.
– This means that I ask a series of verbal questions.
– I direct these questions to your body.
– If your body wants to tell me ‘No’ then the muscle switches off and the arm goes down.
– If your body wants to tell me ‘Yes’ then the muscle stays locked on and it will not go down.
– Then I proceed by asking your body Yes or No questions. I have a very refined, efficient system by which I very quickly find out what your body wants to tell me.
Your body knows exactly where the problems are.
Your body remembers the tiny incidents and experiences from your life that put its energy out of alignment.
Your body recalls in detail the things you have forgotten that are the root causes of your current struggles.
Your body also knows exactly what it needs to solve the problem.
And your body will tell me how to erase the blocks by using a muscle to respond to my questions.
So how does this work when you’re not in the room with me?
Maybe you’re even on the other side of the world?
Here’s the magic…
In the quantum field (the space between us) everything is connected.
So, first, I connect to you using an energetic intention.
Imagine it like this – in the space between us there are a million dots.
When I create an energetic intention, I light up a pathway of dots.
If my intention is to connect with you, then I light up a pathway of dots between you and I.
When we are connected in this way, I substitute my muscle for your muscle.
This is called surrogate testing.
I generally use the quadriceps in my thigh because it gives me the most accurate response.
(And leg ache, after I’ve been working too long.)
When I’ve connected to you, I direct my questions to your body via this connection, and I apply pressure to my own muscle as if it were yours.
My muscle responds on your behalf and I work exactly as I would in a one-on-one in-person session – asking questions and monitoring the response.
This is how I can accurately pinpoint your blocks and triggers.
When I work with a group, I connect to the collective energy of the members and apply the same principle.
It’s an enormous amount of fun, solving the puzzles of people’s problems.
Geek Confession: In my head, I’m the energetic Sherlock Holmes.
Once I’ve identified what the blocks are and how to release them, we move onto the second part – Correcting the Energy – and I’ll share more about that next time.
I hope that this has been useful.
I know the word kinesiology is a bit of a ‘kinesi-what’.
And I know that I was really cynical about anything alternative until I saw the results for myself.
I’m just a regular person, going about my life.
And I have an intense interest in what goes on behind the scenes of our lives, in the energetic realm.
It doesn’t mean I talk to fairies, wear tie-dye or eat crystals.
But it does mean I have a real advantage in life because I can change the very stuff that we are made of.
I can edit it, erase it, shift it.
I can find the things that trigger you and make them not trigger you any more.
I can strengthen you to your weaknesses and heighten your abilities.
I can take an issue that cripples you and erase it so well that you can’t even recall it.
So funnily enough, I absolutely love my work.
But rest assured, I take it very seriously.
I might put kisses at the end of my messages, but that’s just because I’m an absolutely softy.
I like running my own business because if I want to confuse the hell out of my accountant with an auto-responder that greets you with “Hello lovely” – well, that’s up to me.
In my energy work, I know exactly what I’m doing.
If you’re in my family, you get taken care of.
And that’s what Prosperity Prescription is all about.
My online family.
We’re about to embark on another year-long journey.
The first year has been an enormous success.
Phenomenal success stories.
Transformations, celebrations and a lot of happy tears.
Prosperity Prescription 2.0 is taking it to the next level.
This year it’s all about helping you to radiate brilliance.
It’s about erasing your blocks, dropping old baggage and de-activating your triggers.
My mission is to help everyone in the group reach their highest potential.
I’m thrilled, humbled and grateful that I get to lead this family on a new adventure.
I would be honoured if you would join us.
Check out all the information here.
And come and experience the transformation for yourself.
It’s unique, ground-breaking and extraordinary – and you’re invited.
See you on the other side…
With much love,
PS – Just imagine what happens when you apply this work to how you feel about yourself and your work… just click here for the details on Prosperity Prescription 2.0.
When I was a kid, my parents re-decorated our bathroom.
On the wall they hung a photo.
It was a photo of a grey sea, with a whale’s tail lifting out of the water.
Underneath, it said:
“He roams the sea in freedom, with no enemy – save man.”
It touched my heart every time I looked at it.
And I thought: “One day I will see that for myself.”
Over the years I’ve thought about it from time to time.
One day I will see whales in the wild.
Whenever the bucket-list question comes up –
Whale-watching is on mine.
When we’ve been planning holidays before, it seemed out of reach.
Either a long way to go to focus on something that might not happen.
Or that the weather would be cold, and as a Brit I chase the sun whenever I can.
This summer we had another bucket-list holiday planned.
The whole family.
Highway 1, up the coast, San Diego to San Francisco.
As it came nearer it seemed too good to be true.
I was almost afraid to think about it in case I jinxed it and made it not happen.
We started planning what we’d do.
As I looked at the places along the route, I found Monterey.
Home of an amazing Aquarium.
But also, home of whale-watching expeditions.
I did some research.
I wanted a wild experience, not a Sea-Life-esque one.
Two years a
I found myself in a constant state of almost-anxiety.
Not anxiety, but something.
A shallowness of breath, not feeling completely relaxed.
Compulsively checking my phone to see if anything needed my attention.
Feeling relieved if there was nothing to deal with.
I did some muscle testing and found that the root cause was ‘Fear of other people being annoyed with me.’
And this fear, this trigger, was resulting in me being constantly on the alert.
Because if someone had a problem that needed my attention and I failed to respond quickly, they might be annoyed, and to me, that was terrifying.
As I did a quick Energy Edit to release my body’s stress response to the trigger, and break the pattern, I realised two things:
I’m not superwoman.
I take my work very seriously but as important as my clients and customers are, it’s not life or death.
I’m not an emergency room doctor.
I don’t have to be on-call 24 hours a day because people are not dying if I don’t check my email.
Also, I’m not superwoman.
Not the caped version saving lives (see above).
And not the modern-day-mythical-creature who’s ‘having it all’.
It’s impossible to live a fulfilled life, love your friends and family, have fun, enjoy your work AND be a slave to your inbox with your phone glued to your hand.
As much as we don’t want to admit it, it’s true.
Those little electronic devices are meant to be our servants, handy tools, not the master of how we spend every waking minute.
I gave myself permission right then to step away from the emails.
As the fear of ‘someone being annoyed with me’ released, I realised it was time to woman-up and take some action.
- I deleted my email account from my phone.
I knew if I had to sit at my laptop to answer emails, I’d check them far less often.
I already have notifications for everything switched off.
I don’t want pings, bings, badges and flags interrupting my day.
But that didn’t stop me hitting ‘Inbox’ to make it check for new emails way too often.
Email access on my phone had to go.
This would also eliminate two other silly things I was doing:
Tapping out replies on that tiny keyboard when I could do it much faster on the laptop.
Or, worse, reading emails twice – once on the phone and again later, because of course I could reply much faster on the laptop…
It wasn’t just the emails that were keeping me attached to the phone.
I am an avid facebook user.
I love The Book (as my Dad calls it).
But it’s addictive.
It’s an energy-suck, an attention vampire and a time-eating vortex.
I’d tried deleting the facebook app from my phone before, but always just ended up downloading it again 24 hours later.
This time I vowed just to stop keeping my phone by my side.
Maybe you do it too, carry your phone from room to room at home?
What the hell is that about?
It had to stop.
I had to start being conscious of when I was picking it up and not just letting it be something I do for vague entertainment.
I put my phone in a drawer in the hallway so it was out of sight until I set aside time to actually use it.
I knew that my hands and brain were going to get twitchy for something to do.
Like any good habit the quiet moments are when it’s hard to break.
Between tasks, waiting for the kids, or making a hot drink, I would usually pick up my phone and start scrolling.
I’d love to tell you that I made the switch from using the phone to meditating in silence and that I now have the zen of a Buddhist monk.
Or that I started doing push-ups and I now have a six-pack.
But I already resist both of those, so they didn’t quite appeal enough to get me to step away from the plastic rectangle.
This is what I did:
2. Instead of my phone I carry a small notebook.
(Fellow stationary lovers, for you: Hardcover, elastic snap to keep it closed, quality paper, A6.)
And a pen.
(Uni-ball, turquoise ink.)
I carry them everywhere.
Instead of passively consuming; I’m actively creating.
Some of what I write down is complete bollocks.
Occasionally I make ugly doodles.
But a lot of the time this happens:
I make notes for things that will help me and other people.
I journal and process ‘stuff’ that I’m working through.
I get my ideas out of my head and free up brain space.
It’s so simple.
It’s nice for my kids see me writing with a pen instead of typing on a screen.
(I know, because they told me, like this:
“I like it that you’re not on your phone all the time mum.”
Yeah, not exactly a Proud Parenting Moment.)
I sometimes forget to put my phone away, and when I do, that feeling of ‘busyness’ creeps back in.
The over-flowing brain and tension in my gut that stems from the sense that my time is not my own.
And my time is my own.
Like many of you, I’ve created a business where my time IS mine.
I choose the hours I work.
I limit the number of clients I take on.
I don’t schedule long-running programmes that include monthly calls because when I see it mapped out my calendar I lose my sense of freedom and start to feel sick.
And yet still I was filling my days.
Making myself answerable to people who didn’t even expect an answer!
When I tested for the trigger it came up as ‘It’s safe for me to be perfectly happy’.
Apparently I had a limiting belief that it wasn’t.
When I did the Energy Edit, up came the subconscious reasons for why it’s not safe for me to be perfectly happy:
Like… people don’t like perfectly happy people.
And… If you’re perfectly happy it can only go downhill.
That’s what my subconscious had been whispering to me.
So now my phone sits in the drawer until I actively WANT to use it.
For connections that feel harmonious.
At times when it feels good to connect.
Acknowledging that it’s ‘safe for me to be perfectly happy’ and releasing the fear of ‘someone being annoyed’ led me to the third and final hack.
This was a big one for me.
I’d tried it twice before and faltered.
- I handed my email inbox over to a VA.
A virtual assistant.
Which is a terrible name, because ‘virtual’ means ‘sort of’.
And who wants to hand their business to a ‘sort-of’ assistant?
Personally, I want a Definite Assistant.
(I do realise that it’s virtual because they work remotely, don’t worry.)
I couldn’t even imagine how handing over my emails to a VA would work.
So I got on a call and asked really stupid questions and this is what I found out…
(You might already know this, but if you don’t you might find this as GENIUS as I did.)
You set up a new email account and you don’t give the address to anyone apart from your VA.
You give your VA access to your business email account.
Your VA monitors the emails, replies to anything obvious, deals with anything that doesn’t need your input (this grows the longer you work together.)
The emails that DO need your input are forwarded to your secret email address.
You monitor that email address once a day – at the very most.
You hit reply and send your response back to your main email address.
Your VA copies the text over in a reply to the original email and sends it.
So you’re still replying to people personally when they need you to.
But you don’t have to wade through the stuff that needs admin assistance, or receipts that need filing, or any of the other random stuff that lands there.
You don’t have to check emails ‘just in case’ – only to find yourself in the vortex of ‘just quickly’ responding.
Your inbox is the to-do list other people want to give you.
It’s how other people think you should spend your time.
And I’d like to tell you that it’s not just ok for you to choose how you spend your time – it’s not just important.
You get to choose.
That’s the point of creating your own business.
You don’t have a boss.
So don’t let the thousands of clients, connections and customers (real and potential) become thousands of bosses who dictate what you do and when you do it.
Repeat after me:
It is safe for me to be perfectly happy.
Have a brilliant day.
Lots of love
Do you sleep with your phone in your bedroom?
Maybe it’s right next to your bed?
Is it your alarm clock?
Please, keep reading.
Don’t panic, I’m not going to tell you to stop using your phone.
You know when your phone is connected to Wifi?
It emits a signal to communicate with the Wifi network.
You know when you put your phone near a speaker and it crackles?
It’s giving off a signal to connect to your service provider.
Those signals are waves of energy.
Radio waves put your body under stress.
The effect is worsened when your body is at rest or sleeping.
Would you sleep next to a tiny microwave cooking food all night?
Then please, tonight and every night from now on, just do this:
Switch your phone to ‘Airplane’ mode.
Or switch it off.
Then move it at least ten feet from your bed.
You’ll fall asleep faster.
Your quality of sleep will be vastly improved.
In the ‘old’ days when I was in private practice I had teenage clients with extreme mood swings, skin problems and fatigue.
Testing their energy ALWAYS indicated ‘mobile phone’ as part of the issue.
Often they were sleeping with their phone under their pillow.
I’ve had adult clients with their own version of the same issue.
Plugged-in culture means that we check social media in bed before sleeping.
We check emails when we wake up.
This can cause over-stimulation of your mind, which makes it hard to relax.
But the stealth-side-effect of this behaviour is that we sleep right next to our phones.
All night that little piece of plastic is spewing negative rays at your energy system.
Your energy system is the blueprint for your mind and body.
So messed up energy has consequences.
Poor sleep is one of them.
Others include left and right confusion, dizziness, low mood, inability to concentrate, foggy-headedness, irritability, tension and headaches.
All of which are also compounded by poor sleep.
Don’t believe me?
Don’t worry, you don’t have to.
Just switch your phone to ‘Airplane’ mode (or off) and put it a few feet away from your bed for the next few nights.
You’ll experience a better quality of sleep.
I’ve shared this tip with various clients and groups and the overwhelmingly positive response prompted me to share this quick info-blog, so please pass it on…
We can all benefit from having more clear-headed, well-rested and cheerful people in the world!
The Energy Editor